When I masturbate it is more comfortable to use a piece of fabric clothing or plushie to get off my partner does not have a problem with me masturbating so long as I only use my hands does anyone have any advice is this a problem or is my partner overreacting update a little bit of additional info most times that this has happened was while I was mostly asleep due to a sleep disorder
first my partner identifies as male and uses he/him pronouns second there are times where sex is off the table for example when our kids wont go to sleep there are more examples but I wont go into them
because it is a problem for my partner it makes them feel insecure and worthless when I use anything but my hands to masturbate
i am not happy most of the time no. most of the time I am doing everything around the house including chores childcare cooking laundry etc. and whenever I try to bring up my issues I get told that they are unable to help because of depression, that they need their electronics because it helps keep them calm or they will bring up my struggles to break my porn addiction alongside the time I cheated on him which instantly shuts me down because I know I was in the wrong for both those problems
why make something miserable work? Clearly they have some mental health issues going on, maybe suggest he sees a therapist?
It would be a serious violation of my NGS (Nice Guy Syndrome) recovery to stay in a relationship that I'm miserable in. If I don't address this, I'm dooming myself to failure in my recovery from porn addiction. I would be gone. See you later partner. Don't call me. Don't even think about me. Keep the kids. They remind me too much of you. No, I don't play nice, ... anymore. I'm done doing the nice guy approach. Nice guys finish last, always. This goes especially true when dealing with my PMO.
he is though his therapist seems really focused on his "eating disorder" rather than his mental health