I’m younger than most people here (13) but I’m trying really hard to give up porn and masturbating because I don’t like the way I was obsessed with it (9 days is my record without pmo). I haven’t had any sex or even my first kiss yet but at a sleepover with a guy friend and we touched eachother on our dicks over our pajamas for a bit. It started as an accident but ended up on purpose from both of us. I really like girls and I want to have a girlfriend but some of the porn I watched since the sleepover was two guys because I kind of like to watch that too when I masturbate to porn. What I want to know is in puberty books it says that it’s normal for boys my age to be interested in other boys and it’s part of growing up and you find out you if you are gay or straight when you are older. I haven’t started puberty yet but I know a boy who is 11 and he says he is gay but even though I’m older than him I don’t really know what I am yet. How old do you need to be to know if you are gay or straight? Is it different for each person or do you need to just accept what kind of sex you like to look at in porn and that is your true attraction. I just don’t know if I’m being honest or hiding it but some other people seem to know even if they are younger than me.
What you are attracted to should occur naturally. Stay away from porn until you fully hit puberty. It could happen when anytime. You see a pretty girl walk by and it just hits you like a truck. I think i was in love girls early on and then sexually aroused by them when i hit 7th grade when puberty hit seeing their bodies grow. High school was rough when their was a loose dress code at my school. Getting hooked on bikini mags. Then moved to college and tons of women around everywhere and porn coming out. My porn has jumped to various genres even trans but i know i am straight. Gay porn might have came on a side bar but it never entered my thought process. Even in reality i have been approached by men casualy but i always said i was straight. So after a while you will know what you like. Give yourself time and dont let porn dictate your sexuality.
You've already shown your hand - "I really like girls and I want to have a girlfriend..." You wouldn't feel this way if you were gay. But, porn can twist even str8 minds in all sorts of ways. You would be best advised to remove P completely from your life, and don't let any sleepovers with guy friends lead to experimental behaviors. It's not worth it.
There is a girl I have been crushing on since we were little but nothing has ever happened with her (and I would probably be too shy even if she said yes). I don't feel like I love the guys in porn videos but if it is a guy and a woman I look at his dick a lot cos it looks quite different to mine. There is a kid in the year below me at school who I hang around with and I think he's quite cute and I have masturbated thinking about him but I don't know if I would want to do anything with him irl. I don't know I just thought I should know by now how I feel.
I have a similar book! It tells that is the natural evolution of sexuality - masturbation, same sex attraction, other sex attraction, no sexual attraction. Long time porn has ruined my head. It's an escape from reality more that healthy sexuality... If i can say, focus on connection with the partner, enjoy together, what you like you like and if it changes it will changes. No need to identify with some sexual position. Gay, bi, sexual fluid, other bullshit. Just words, do as you feel it's ok.
The biggest advice that I could give to you, is stay away from porn, and talk about your feelings and thoughts to someone you can trust. Don't internalize your thoughts or keep them to yourself, because they could surprisingly land you on a completely different trajectory than you want. You're obviously still very young and it's normal to experience insecurities and doubts, but it's a bad thing to seek help from people who don't know you too well. So my advice to you is to give yourself time and act based on natural instinct. What anyone says on the WEB is irrelevant except if you want to believe in it. Don't mix thought with reality. Rely on your guts for they never betray you, you already know what's natural from what's not.
Thanks that sounds like really good advice. I’m an impatient person so I want to figure it out and I probably need to chill a bit.
Please stay away with this rubbish kid. I started when i was 12/13 and 21 years later am still here. I wish I didn't start. Just stop now because once a habit becomes prolonged it will get worser and more difficult to stop. You're at a very early stage and you're lucky you found this site. In my days we hardly had internet.
You are so young. I beg you to stop looking porn and sex can wait. Focus on school, family and sports. You are kid, teenager. Live it and enjoy your life. I would like being 13 again.
Thank you. I’m trying so hard to stay off it and I’m on my longest run since the first time I discovered masturbating - 10 days woo hoo! It’s not easy but I don’t want it to be part if my life any more.
Yes this is right. Unfortunately many begin in this age. If you have questions you can message me. I made so much mistakes which i regret cause i didnt had someone to talk with. Focus on school. Make sports.
You get erect . Is usually a good indicator Also what are you romantically inclined towards a male or a female
I never knew that was normal for boys I definitely fooled around and more with a neighbor boy my age growing up I will tell my friend next time she accuses me of being gay I'm sorry I am not macho I will show her on my birthday just how not gay I am since her present to me is having her erotically in the bedroom
I feel it didn't make me confused about being gay or straight but it was too early for my brain to be sexual grew my addiction I feel