I have done NoFap for a while now, and I have realized I am a zoophile. I am attracted to canines and cheetahs. I don't really like humans that much. I get erections playing with dogs, and I have had wet dreams with dogs in them. I haven't even watched bestiality porn before, although I have watched furry porn. I feel very ashamed about this and hate myself for it. I don't really know what to do about it. I might want to get help, but then I would have to tell my parents. What would it do anyway? It's not conversion therapy. I might go to therapy to control myself more. I wanted to tell at least someone, and the NoFap community is one of the least judgmental out there. Everyone has a problem here. I don't want to offend. I know that these attraction are gravely disordered. I am just looking for some advise on what to do.
You are very young. Please be kind to yourself, finding the way through teenage years is confusing in many ways. Don’t cement an identity for yourself in that animals are the only source of sexual interest for you. You don’t need to tell your parents every thought you have. Just focus as best you can on school and positive interests you might have like sport, music, or social hobbies. You’re ok xx
I do not want to hate myself, but this is hard. You're right in that people shouldn't create identities for themselves based on their sexuality. I guess I can't tell my parents, but I do want to tell someone; I guess that's why I'm here. I am doing well in school.
If you are a recovering addict your brain may seek some other form of release than porn. It is hard, but you should continue abstaining. It is good that you don't watch bestiality porn. If you want to tell someone therapy is a good place.
Listen man, you are very young and sexuality can be plastic. When I was your age, I was attracted to shoes instead of people. Female shoes. And that only. My dreams were about shoes and I fapped only while looking at or touching shoes. Or while watching videos of shoes, or people wearing shoes but preferred to not have their face visible. But it changed later. I don’t know why or how, but it changed. And nowadays I can appreciate it a lot when a girl is wearing nice shoes. But I am attracted to the person now. Changed completely between the ages of 18-21. I have trust in your natural human instincts, it wants to reproduce with other humans eventually. Don’t worry about it. If I were you, I would stay away from porn at all costs. Use iPhone with restrictions so you can use only a few selected websites from the browser, and only selected apps (so no Insta, YT, Pinterest etc). Or get a dumb phone instead of smartphone. Also get rid of your laptop/pc and/or tablet. Ask your parents to put passwords on their electronic devices because you ‘can’t stop using the internet’ (without having to go in detail). Most importantly don’t worry about it, things will be alright
I like the first part of your post, but I think the latter half is very ambitious. I know it says Francis is from Mars, but I'm assuming this to be infactual, and in most societies on earth nowadays, it's impossible to participate in society without regular web access.
I didn’t know about nofap yet, so no it just happened naturally. I expect that it would have happened sooner if I abstained, but I can’t prove that theory. I do know that sexual tastes become more healthy and natural after not having seen any kind of P for a while I work as a taxi driver and when I need a computer I either contact family/friends or go to a public library. I use iPhone restrictions so I can only use a handful of apps and websites (NoFap is one of them). I have zero problems living my life mostly disconnected from the web like this. It does get harder if you need internet for work or studies though
I have to use a computer for school, but it is heavily monitored. They would take your device away if you were looking at something bad. I have another computer, but I can use Cold Turkey blocker to block every website except a few. I have a dumb phone, but my mother is begging me to buy a smartphone. I guess your story gives me some reassurance.
You are not alone, "After you read this, I guarantee you will feel sorry for me. Imagine this. You are attracted to women, like you are now (emotionally and sexually), but they do not exist. They existed a long time ago, and no one knows what they looked like (They have a pretty good idea from the fossils, however), but they do not exist anymore. That means, not only do you know there will never be any possibility of you having sex with one, but there's not even a possibility of you ever seeing one in real life. Everyone else, however, except for a very few, are not attracted to women, they are attracted to something else entirely. So in other words, you will never find any porn anywhere on the internet, only non-sexual pictures of women. Everyone you have told about your attraction to women think it's disgusting. To relieve yourself, you get off on the non-sexual pictures of women, knowing it will never get any better. That's what life is like to me. I am a degree 6 Zoosexual, sexually and emotionally attracted to Tyrannosaurs and nothing else.Women don't even do it for me. I am cursed to live my life in the misery that my most powerful emotional fantasies will never be even close to coming true. Life is like hell to me. I will never know true love." -Unnamed author.
I don't think posting a copypasta will help me. I need support, not to be laughed at. This goes with other threads as well.
Sorry, I accidentally deleted the post. The thing is, I used to think like this. I thought, "I don't care. I can just ignore it." Somewhere along the road though, I felt more ashamed for it. Maybe it was everyone online who said that zoophiles were disgusting or something. I guess this is the reason I want to go to therapy. But, like I said, I can't because my parents will find out. I guess it's just everybody's negativity to zoophiles online. I guess I also felt more ashamed the more I realized I was a zoophile. I want to stop thinking about it and live a normal life, but I don't know how. How can I be more accepting of myself? I think if society didn't care, I would be more fine. I can't even tell my parents because of what they have said to me before. I don't have any friends, so I can't tell them either. At least this community is accepting. I also have doubts if I am making this up to make myself feel special. Maybe I just want to be a zoophile. Maybe I just want to have a more interesting story. I check by looking at pictures of dogs to see if I am still attracted to them. I don't know. Sometimes breasts just look like large tumors to me. Or am I making that up to feel more unique? So many doubts.
I think I have OCD to check whether I'm still a zoophile. Maybe it's Heterosexual OCD. Athropophile OCD? (I made that word up.) I am doubting whether I am zoo-exclusive or not. I will try to not focus on it as much. I guess I shouldn't care what other think. i don't really know how to do that though. Some of the shame comes because I feel like a failure if I don't have family. My mom wants me to do that. My parents are also asking me if I have seen any cute girls, and I don't know what to say.
I never thought of it like that. I should just not react to my feelings. I guess I'll tell my parents that I'm focusing on improving myself. I need to live a life that is good for me, and I should let go of my feelings. I could also put this with other areas of my life as well.
Don't blame society, because there is a reason why society does not accept zoophilic acts, but you are not dealing with problem of acts, but desires. Do not identify with your fantasies and live a normal life, obviously it is hard to just detach yourself, but it should be your goal. All people experience unwanted emotions and desires, but we have the power to choose what we will do about them. I would advice to talk to parents about therapy without telling the exact reason why. You could tell that you feel insecure, it wouldn't even be a lie. Exactly. Very good advice.
I agree that I should not do zoophilic acts, but many people will hate you just for being a zoophile. I remember looking at YouTube comments for a video, and they were all like "How could you look at a dog that way‽ Disgusting!" They make me feel like I'm disgusting. I don't know how much a therapist can tell parents. I've talked about therapy before, but I guess I'll make more of an effort. I have been trying to not interact with my thoughts more and to just let it go. I also took the advice that WildEntheology said about saying you want to focus about yourself when asked about relationships.
I told my parents. My dad said it was about control, which I do not think is true. My mom said to treat it like a phase. They said that they still loved me though.
Yes, don't label yourself, as this is a spectrum you acquired gradual interest in, as it can easily be a spectrum that you grow away from. You are not pigeon-holded, although there may be reminder temptations, which unacted upon are never bad or deviant. you just need to grow from where you're at.
Thanks for the support. It took to do that. I guess you're right, but the point goes to all people. No one should make their sexuality a defining part of themselves. I'm not really sure how much people can change their sexuality.