Hi all, I am 17 and have been doing nofap for about a year - it is amazing. I recently found out that my father was watching porn. I really think him embarking on this journey would be amazing for his health, business, and my whole family in general. I am wondering if you all have any suggestions for ways to get him to randomly stumble across nofap on his computer (like start getting youtube to recommend nofap videos or have an add for this forum or nofap reddit keep appearing). I think a direct conversation would be too awkward. Any advice appreciated.
I doubt this approach will work, but if you want youtube to recommend him some nofap videos, log into his account from his device, turn watch history off, and watch some nofap videos.
Lol. It is usually the way around. If u really love him pray for him. And when the time comes, tell him what u r doing, he may be inspired. The truth is that this journey is pretty tough and there are soo many factors involved. Your dad like 99% of men is using orgasm to handle stress. He needs to want it badly enough for it to work.
I am being serious though as silly as it sounds. Maybe just tell him about it one day let's face it you can't try what we don't know. We all live in our own fantasies when you think about it.
Ya that's a tricky one, my 15 year old son had dry hands, gave him some lotion and he used it up in a matter of weeks. Now he has a large bottle on the nightstand, I want to give him shit about it, tell him I had to spit in my hand when I was your age. If he is as addicted to PM as he is with video games, I think it's a serious problem. I want to mention NoFap to him, but I know that you can't fix a problem if you don't think there is one. My wife was on my case for years about pm, there was nothing I was going to do about it, cause I didn't see a problem. Years later I couldn't figure out why I was so depressed, lacked focus, motivation then I found NoFap on YouTube and found a path I wanted to try. I'm on day 73 of no PM, I feel good, but I am having second thoughts because I started to feel the same as I did when I did watch PM. Not getting enough from wife, it's boring, and don't feel things are changing for the better. We've talked about it, but she's tired and we like different things and I'm not feeling comfortable because of our differences. Not helping that kids home all the time due to covid and we work opposite shifts.
It has to go bad before it gets better. The main problem is that you are entirely reliant on pm or o to handle stress and everyday anxieties. This is the problem with almost all men i know. When you take this drug away , you will feel like shit for a while. It is the brain rewiring. It took me around 90 days to start feeling free and i am feeling better and better every day. My suggestion to you is to stop all sexual activity and go on hard mode. You need to strike a new relationship with your sexuality. What you like now, you may not like in 90 days or 120 days.
I do feel that is probably have to happen I just don't know if I have the will power to go without for that long, I struggle just once a week with the wife. But I do feel the chaser affects and I don't think they'll go away.