Yeah, I think no one should think about getting in a relationship until they've been clean for 1 year.
It is very encouraging to know that I'm not the only one in this struggle. Coming on here lets me know that others are dealing with porn and masturbation, and it is a way of support.
I think you're just asking for problems if you do. It's one thing if you're already in a relationship but another if you aren't and start one when you're not clean.
My main reasons for doing nofap are attempting to cure my anhedonism, brain fog and constant fatigue. Secondary reason is that my wife wants to get pregnant so I need to save all my spunk for getting the job done.
Well this is generally what happens, some one looks at porn gets into a relationship does some experimenting of their own...this is what happens they either get knocked up and break up, have sex and break up down the road, or rarely they have sex they stay....either way the relationship does only one thing it fails.
Heres my reason, I want to be myself again; I want to be normal again. PMO has already destroyed my life. These are the things PMO has done to me: Lesser confidence for me to do a class presentation or talk to women Lowered my self-esteem to do what I'm passionate about such as music or software development Increased my social anxiety Waste my time, energy and attention when I could do something more productive Making me objectify women in my surrounding when I'm in the public or in class Its destroying my sexuality
Im doing it because its the only chance to get back to my old self...I turned into something I never wanted to be,it got me into the deepest bottom of hell,and I saw things I never wanted to see and I experienced that borderless lust and cruelty that makes people more animal than human...Im fed up with it and I feel myself ashamed of the things Ive done and I saw. I want to feel happy honestly, see the good things,do good,help, and just live, and give love. Im really desperate and feel myself responsible for all this shit
I’ve relapsed for the past 4-5 months and the anxiety and brain fog is worse than it’s ever been. I now know that during good runs at nofap my confidence improves and certain physical things start to change. For example after a few weeks I start getting wet dreams again which I probably didn’t experience for 10+ years before I recognised my issues with porn. I see this as my body starting to function normally. So when i see such clear signs that abstaining works, it makes it very clear t me that this is the right direction.