Checking in for today, it's yet another PMO free day for me. Brain fog is really receding, but I still feel dumber than before the relapse chain.
@Jefe Rojo Cograts, you have already won. I saw something I wasn't supposed to see, and it destroyed me... I'm still nowhere near your level, hope we will battle again in the future. Best of luck! @Saiyan123 I'm sorry for this pathetic first fight, next time it will be better. I'm up for the next duel any time you find me an opponent.
Hey @Future role model , don’t despair my brother and try not to compare yourself to other people. I used to struggle way worse that I currently do. It takes a lot of hard work and effort, and most important of all is to be patient with yourself - but you will get there. I would be willing to do a rematch if you’re game.
This is an uphill climb, the prize is at the top. You're foot may slip and you may stumble. But what ever you do, don't give up! - hickorydoo Keep fighting, learn from it put steps into place to stop that happening again.
Keep fighting, delete whatever app caused you to see that even if you're bored for a while it's better than M. You can do this.
Oh I didn't see that 3 days rule. I guess we're doing rematch then. I promise this time I'll be better. Good luck @Jefe Rojo !
I found this really beneficial, it has a lot to do with religion obviously but a lot of good knowledge and help in general I didn't find elsewhere. A series on PM addiction.
Firstly I'd like to start by thanking the beast for such a thought provoking question. I think the realistic answer for that would be very complex because it does go down to individual levels and how you are as a person so I can only give my general opinion, from my own experiences. I've had the habit of doing M for 5 years now and I mentioned before this was a daily habit, one I had to change. When I first joined nofap i actually said The truth is M addiction didn't affect me then or even make me sad; I was really popular and a lot of girls found me attractive so I wasn't really sad. Between 16-18, I learnt a lot though. It doesn't matter the quantity of friends you have (or even if you have any all as long as you're happy with your own company), but the quality. I isolated myself and was lazy, with a lot of problems starting to build up such as depression. How could a person who believes in God do M and still say he's a righteous person, this was my thinking so what I did was pretty drastic. I stopped everything completely which was bad in terms of my religion, and left the people who encouraged me to keep on doing that and only one thing 'bad' remained and that was my M addiction. At that point I realised for myself happiness and loneliness are two different constructs of my mind, the thing that M does it soothes both of them temporarily with harmful after effects. I reached a low around 2 months ago now, I don't need to say how low but I was miserable, not because of M but because of my actions and lack of actions which M definitely contributes to. I can really say I've improved ridiculous amounts in 2 weeks of noFap, but that is because I don't want there to be any misery. M obscures my mind and clouds my consciousness but to answer the question from all that experience is that fapping does contribute to the misery but not primarily, that's down to lack of self control. Due to the lack of self control, you lose control in a lot of the areas of your life you need it and your life can spiral downhill without you even noticing, so it is all down to your mind to improve your own misery. Would be glad to hear other people's responses on this.
For me M has been a problem for the past 15 years. It lead me into P and strange fetishes so that I could M with strong Os. It’s been a curse that I’m desperately trying to overcome. I have put P behind me and pretty much done the same with my fetishes, but M still remains. I’m trying my hardest to fight it and I’ve made some progress despite some minor stumbles along the way. M has limited my ability to reach my full potential. I, too, have found correlation between lack of self control in other areas and with M. I can never justify M because when I do, it becomes insatiable and I look for more perverse ways to trigger myself into MO. So for me, I can never and will never again justify M.