Hi everyone. I have an ed problem. It doesn't happen during the sex (I am not getting laid), it happens during masturbation. I can get an orgasm and a half boner sometimes. I went to the doctor, he told me there is nothing wrong with me and it is probably psychological. I am also having really bad days and I am using anti-depressant, mood stabilizer and an anti-psychotic. but even before using anti-depressant, I had this problem. so I think porn might be the problem. I started nofap only because of my ed problem. I will return to masturbation if I can cure my pied. because I don't think I can get a girlfriend. I am not a social person. so porn is my only choice. I also sometimes think about suicide but even guns don't kill 100%. but at the same time I want to live actually, just I am sick of suffering. I have been to psychiatric hospital before, since then I have ed problem. I am pretty sure it is not the medications because they are already out of my system. Do people here who suffer from pied usually have pied during sex or masturbation? I know it depends to the person, but I can't go on for months to heal. I am just hoping to heal in two weeks or a month. masturbation is also a coping mechanism for me with depression.
Welcome to the forum! It's hard for us to comment on your condition without being medical professionals but the NoFap program simply works. Just stop PMO - 100%. Within days you will see the difference!
Wow dude, sounds like a nightmare. For the record, antidepressants knacker your sex drive, so that could easily be part of the problem (or make it worse). Certainly killing yourself would get rid of the ED problem but it would also hurt a bunch of people and take away any chance of getting sorted out. It is possible to recover from this, and this is a good place to start that journey. I'd also recommend getting some extra help. What country are you in? I can probably point you to some stuff in the UK, but I don't know what's available elsewhere. There is hope, you can get better .
thank you man. just the uncertainty of how many days I should NoFap is a bit challenging. I read people heal in two weeks and also I read about people who didn't heal in years. I'm at my first day today, but I watched porn out of curiousity, I didn't touch myself though.
Yes, I know they kill sex drive. but I just started antidepressants, this problem was existing last week too. I am seeing a psychiatrist and a psychologist but I feel like it is not helping. I feel lonely(have 3 real friends) and I have changed after the hospitalization. I don't think I will suicide now, but I am not going to my classes, my resistance to life got lower. I don't feel like a man anymore because of my ed. I am also envying people's social lives. I am 5 ft 8 and I am also sick of people ridiculing short men. I spoke these issues with my psychologist and my psychiatrist but there is no magic pill. they can't help me even though they want.
I'm not a psychiatrist so take what I say with that in mind, but it does sound like you have a bunch of things going on which are tinkering with your brain chemistry and some ingrained stuff that isn't helpful. We live in an environment where it is really easy to get messed up for all sorts of reasons, but it is possible to recover, and there are people who can help. Nobody is going to judge you on style points , personally I'd be happy to crawl over the line, just need to keep putting one foot in front of the other.
by the way another reason that I sometimes think about suicide is I don't want to go to psychiatric hospital again. There is abusive staff in psychiatric hospitals (not all of them but still there is). not having your freedom is awful. my confidence is not like used to be. I went to psychiatric hospital in a foreign first world country. worst days of my life. Also in my country(second world country), there is more stigma around mental health. so I am guessing it would be worse.
Yeah, you know that the hospital is shit when people are considering suicide rather than going there. Would getting plugged in with a community help? It's much harder to do this stuff on your own
m many people are not so willingly to help people. What I am seeing is a culture of making others down to look funny or social confirmation. I am not saying all people are like that. I believe you care or my psychologist care. but even his therapy can't help me. I am still short. I have still ed. I still feel lonely. my dreams are ended because of my psychotic incident. and I am dead scared that one day I will have an another one and end in prison or psychiatric hospital. thank you for listening and trying to be helpful.
yeah, I know. In a medical sense, I am getting every help that I should. what I need is socializing which I can't do it.
Just keep going. Don't give up yet. I'll mention you to the almighty next time we speak. And for the record, I don't think 5'8" is that short, my best mate is 5'4"
if I go back to pied problem. I am having issues during masturbation. and I read that even people who have pied during sex can't heal after months. so does that mean that I should nofap for much longer time? they say for some people it is years which is impossible. my question is; can people who have pied masturbate and the problem is only during sex?
Brother, first things first. Step one, commit to stopping everything PMO! You have to believe in this process. There is no win or lose, empty or full, in or out. It's several shades of grey and no black and white. What worked for me may not work for you but may work for the 6th person who joins this website after I post this message. But one thing is clear, stop you must to be completely healed. Don't worry yourself to death. You cannot solve this overnight. Even if you spend a year, it's only a portion of your life. I'm offering you insights now during a moment of strength but during my moments of weakness I feel I'll die alone with never being able to have sex again. In my moments of strength I hope to someday be a husband and a father. You have to take things as they come and not think too much of the fleeting emotions.
It is been 3 days. but everyday I watched porn and jerked off except 1 day. I didn't orgasm though. but I guess my goal should be not watching porn rather than not having orgasm. it is even harder. although anti-depressant killed my sexual urges, I still want to watch it. it is an obsession. I almost feel like I am obligated to do it. Gosh, it was so good of being healthy. on the side note, I am not sure if I am having pied, because it happened right after psychiatric hospitalization. I didn't watch porn in the hospital for more than a month.
It'd be a good idea to look up 'edging' in the glossary. In some ways it's actually worse than quick pmo. But you're still here though. Just got to go one step at a time man.
Cold turkey mate. Stop it all. Shut your phone off at home. It'll do wonders. Stop all habits that fed the PMO cycle