It’s perfectly normal. We all have been there. The most important thing is what you just did. Being honest and accepting it. Just be aware of the urges and the triggers. Everything is a learning you carry forward for the next phase. This is the last place on earth where you will be judged. Move forward brother. Reboot. We are all in this together.
Day 7: Kind of a roller coaster day. I had a positive feel, when I started the day. But, the hell broke loose towards mid-day. It was not because of the urge to watch P, it was because that I lacked interest in anything around me. Prepared an excellent plan for the day, but through mid day it fell apart. I just spent three hours without doing anything useful (without even conscious of my surrounding). Frustrated about myself. The sky got clear in the evening. I felt better after 5 PM. Spoke to few of my friends, written an article for my blog and felt so positive. Things I did today: * Meditation * Kept reminding that the mood swing is common and will be alright once I am out of this addiction * Made a deliberate attempt to look into positives of everything * Read few success stories of rebooters (Motivated)
Today I would like to share what a fellow lad shared with me on the neuroscience behind porn addiction & sexual dysfunction. Listen here if interested: https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p06yq72t Forward to 23:30. Some other great info is in it and even a calming meditation exercise at the end you may find helpful to incorporate into your reboot. Always Remember *The difficult just takes time. The impossible just takes a little longer*.
Day 8 now and going well. Being prepared is such a huge part of this I've learned. So that when a trigger comes up you can recognise it for what it is and make a choice to ignore it.
Day 8: I had a flat day today. Never felt any urge. I have been into work since morning. The day was packed with important tasks and dead lines. I didn't get much time to be alone (That helped me a lot). The days are getting better. I am really surprised by the support I receive here at Nofap. Its amazing to be surrounded by people who are willing to support us, make us optimistic. So far I have felt that the world is a lonely place, but NoFap has changed my perception. This community is something of a boon. Reading success stories of people, surfing through journal entries (Especially @Jefe Rojo ) makes me optimistic. Things I have done today: * Meditation (I feel hard to maintain my focus, but will be alright after a week or so) * Learning new language- Hindi (In my third day, going fine) * Started Gratitude journal (Just one entry, couldn't comment as of now) * Kegel exercise (In the initial stage) * Kept myself busy with works * Read journal of rebooters
The urges today and yesterday are bad. I know for the next week it's gonna be the hardest of all. If I can do this I am set for life. Let's get it
Boys!!! I had a tough time today morning. My mind was constantly wandering off to the “NO ENTRY” zone. The urge to pamper my neglected friend. I almost pushed the panic button. I quickly went for a cold shower and started getting ready for office even though I was way earlier than my usual office time. Sometimes , we need to be behave unusually to beat this bugger.
On Day 10 here. I would love to fast forward to 90 days but still.....halfway to the 20 days. Obviously that's just an intermediate goal, the ultimate goal is for life but it's nice to mark the milestones.
Yea but having a challenge like this gives everyone motivation to get to 20 days, after which point controlling the urges is significantly easier than within the first 20 days. Keep going bro
Thanks, I agree with you that the smaller challenges are good. On my whiteboard in this room I have "1 wk, 2wks, 3 wks" etc written. I've crossed out the "1wk" already so yes it is motivating.