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relapse before Relapse

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Aug 15, 2018.

  1. One thing I've realized about this addiction is that, we relapse early on before we actually relapse. For example, I relapsed yesterday and today after going 14 days clean. Before my relapse (last few days), I was constantly gazing at women on the streets. I went for my high school old students reunion and was constantly having sexual thoughts instead of enjoying the occasion. I was even having thoughts of raping a lady. I knew all these thoughts was leading to only one thing. That is pmo. But I didn't know how to stop it. Finally I relapsed. Can you identify any thought patterns that lead you to pmo? and how can we stop them?
     
  2. Beamer

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    Hey brother,

    When you notice your useful and healthy activities tend to stop or to slow down i.e. doing a workout, eat healthy, ...or you start procrastinating things, that's a red light something is not right and that may lead some time after it happens to pmo...

    Same thing when you start rationalizing yourself into "1 timeis not bad, i deserve it" and crap like that, be aware because it's your addictive brain wanting his fix.

    Just saying buddy, stay strong ! :)

    This image gives you an idea how we lead ourselves to pmo:

    https://imgur.com/zLR7DJj
     
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  3. HereAndThere

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    A dream i had recently made me think of PMO and relapse. I had no control over it, when i woke up i felt like i was indulging that fantasy for hours and maybe i did. Its a bit easier during waking hours, but it still feels like a part of me needs to die to let it go.

    Thats an interesting diagram. Last time i lost it is when it got to "Body language", i knew then i lost it and didnt care. First two stages are hard to avoid for me, "Vulnerable Time" and "Stimulus",i gotta sleep and woman singing is enough stimulus for me at higher days. Resilience in "Emotion" stage might be trained, but i think the best chance of resistance is in "Thought" stage. Collecting some good thoughts to do battle in that stage might be a good idea.
     
  4. You don't have any control over this, this is driven by hormonal cycles. You shouldn't feel guilty about it, you could learn how to control it and transform it into positive energy.

    In fact it leads to O. Would it be okay for you to MO without using P?

    Yes, I also do not know how to stop it at some point, like yesterday, and I'd be very interested how other people here manage it better than all those self-punishment methods.
     
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  5. I can relate to that 100%
     

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