Aaaaand one more thing: you helped yourself. All I did was ask questions. YOu have all the answers you need... although you may not know it yet.
I'm new to nofap, but I wouldn't consider it a relapse at all, since you're interacting and getting turned on by a real girl, not some stranger online.
I dont think so, because i didnt masturbate, didnt orgasm and also didnt watch porn.. i even didnt touch my penis or had the urge to PMO.. thats why i dont think its a relapse..
I would say this is not a relapse. I'd say this is a healthy beginning to a relationship or whatever you want to lable it
As long as you have a mindset on it being positive and healthy, it will do you no harm. Be wary of cravings and the chaser effect though. If she's comfortable sharing such intimate things with you, consider taking the next steps to reboot/rewire.
Don't put yourself in the way of temptation. Don't do PSUBs. Don't hang out on Tinder, don't go chasing hot images on Facebook/Tumblr/Instagram/whatever. Don't test yourself. Don't lie to yourself about "I'm only going to look for a little bit, I swear." Maybe limit your screen time, or don't take the phone to the toilet. Stuff like that. Use your imagination.
Thanks for the tips bro! I feel that im changed. In the past when i saw a video or something I always masturbate. Now i dont have the urge like that anymore and i can manage it! Thanks for the help!
(Can I give some examples, he asks...) First, make sure you've looked up PSUB in the glossary at top of the page. Then, examples: Spoiler: A list of possible PSUBs Lingerie ads Swimsuit pics Muscle girl pics Glamour pics Fashion pics (in some cases) Belly dancers (one of MY favorites, when I was trying to relapse) Image searches for: Cleavage Sideboob Underboob Midriff And the like. Note that most of those will get through most porn blockers, which is why the smart, serious person attempting recovery will always have other recovery tools besides a porn blocker.
Yes thats what im gonna do! If i have sex with her.. is that a relapse? Because i want a 90 days without PMO to reboot/rewire.. im am now on day 67..
Hard to tell. I went a little longer than that without sex with my wife. For me the goal was to get back to normal sex with real people, not screens, so I don't think it was a relapse for me (and my counter is "free from PM", not O). There is the risk that the O, even with a real person, may lead to chaser effect leading you to PMO (I've seen guys complain of it on this forum). Keep an eye on things. There are no guarantees, and the cost of recovery is probably vigilance.