I know a lot of guys that's haven't had to do any chasing, so what? Your personal experiences are nothing more than anecdotal evidence. Maybe you don't understand the difference between "I have a boyfriend" and "no, you can't have my number"? You see one says STOP I'm taken while the other does not. Also I would have no problem with someone saying they would want to be friends if they were genuinely interested in being friends. Yet that's not what you're proposing; no, you're proposing this guy try seek friendship in the hopes he can use that as an opportunity to maybe one day be with this girl. Not only is that manipulative it's also just plain douche material, but you're welcome to go on thinking it's solid advice. As for your naively sappy comments in bold, I have no problem with someone fighting for someone they love, but I would hardly believe this dude loves this girl. Kinda hard to love someone you don't even know yet.
We won't see eye to eye on this, it makes no sense. Do what works for you man, honestly. I try to stay away from unnecessarily petty people and hypocrites.
Like I was saying, if it was somebody who he is really into this chick. Like is INTO this chick, then go for it. But he seems like he just wants to have sex w her, which will get him denied again. Something to consider: some of you are acting like this woman is being harrased on a daily basis. He asked her out and she denied him. She continued to stay at the gym, on what seems like a semi-regular basis. If she was really creeped out she would change gyms or routine. She's obviously not bothered by him to much. What's the harm in trying again?
I'm definitely not under the impression that he's harassing her. Not at all. And I would have no problem with him trying to talk to her again. My impression from her actions and words, however, is that she's not interested in him. So if he wants to save face and not get rejected again, I would say it's best to just leave her alone. To be clear, if any of my comments sounded like I thought the poor girl is being harassed, I wasn't responding to the OP. I was responding to the type of PUA guys who take some random exception of the rare examples of people who hated each other when they first met and then fall in love, and try to apply those rare examples in every situation, which basically just turns into some annoying creep who can't take no for an answer. But again, to be clear, I don't think there's anything wrong with OP talking to that girl on occasion, if she seems interested in conversation.
Lol this got way more attention than I was expecting. I skimmed through most of these, some of them are really negative and are thinking way too much into it, but to answer that one guys question I'd say she's in my league. I think I'm just gonna strike up another casual convo, and see where it goes. If I end up in the same place, so be it. I'll leave it at that. Thanks anyways, y'all. Opening line: "hey what was your name again?"
Is there no better way to impress a lady than to tell her you've forgotten her name....? Or is that a "game" technique? I hope not... Good luck, I think.
As a lady myself, I wouldn't have any issue with that opening line. Everybody forget people's names sometimes, but asking again shows that you at least care and are trying to remember.