We didn't have sex for 2 years so I was crazy wanting it. So we had sex 4ish times a week the first few weeks, then 5 or 6 times a week after. He only O'd once a week though. Lots of slow sex with bonding behaviours like eye gazing etc. from what I have read, as long as you don't fantasize, you rewire your brain to your partner and this is a good thing. If you fantasize it is just like watching a porn and deepens the porn wiring in your brain. Also, @Kenzi is pretty much an expert here
First: Im not sure where to put something 20% bigger. LOL I had this happen to me to. My wife says I used to be more laid back, but i was dealing with painful thoughts through p&m. Once I stopped, I had strong feelings I didn't know how to deal with. My wife said I was acting crazy. I'm just now getting good enough at self care to handle feelings without melting down.
Yes, exactly. I think he has rarely, or even never, really felt his feelings. Now, that the distraction mechanisms are, for the most part, gone, he is totally overwhelmed by them. Yesterday we talked about mindfulness. He is all about *brainfulness* instead. I saw a book recommendation on this forum and started reading it myself yesterday: Buddha's Book of Meditation Deluxe: Mindfulness Practices for a Quieter Mind, Self-Awareness, and Healthy Living by Joseph Emet This is so important for all of us to get our thoughts and emotions under some kind of calmness and control.
I'm glad to hear everyone got a good giggle. Truth is... I Love forearms on guys. I've always noticed them. (now I'm a little less... Because well, what else am. I suppose to think? Correlation wise?) And now that I think about it... It probably was all the Popeye I watched growing up... So, thanks @SuperFan... For that. It was one of the things I did notice. I also noticed how difficult a time he had mashing the patatoes at Thanksgiving. And at least I know he's definitely not using those muscles, lol, am I right? So, I guess... It's the little things that go along way.... Especially since he does a manual labor job and works his ass off... Like, dude... How much did you Really contribute that to that that's not from work? It's honestly interesting. Truly.
All this time we thought it was spinach ... turns out Popeye was just PMO'ing all those years. Gotta give him credit for having the discipline to use both arms.
Thanks for sharing this! It's awesome to read the positives from an SO and realize the gift at the end of the rainbow. Good stuff!
@sparkywantsnoPMO @Jen@8675309 or any other mods. Is it possible to move this back to the porn addiction thread? It will get no views here in Partner Support and I really think this is motivating info for ALL PAs....