True, when I was on M marathons, the skin was so dry and broken. Sometimes the broken/ dry skin was painful even with oil during M, and still I couldn't let go!! That state seems so pathetic now when I sit outside the lust and analyse. ~Nick
I'm past 60 but honestly haven't looked at it so I can't tell. Maybe I can ask the wife to take a look...science and shit.
OK, away from science and shit and back to the thread topic... it's not all about penises, you know So, my BF's changes so far (149 days in): - He is less ticklish on his boobs. Yes, he used to be so ticklish there, I couldn't even accidentally touch them. - And yes, the man-boobs are smaller, but it might be also due to weight loss. - Big weight loss, because he started biking like a maniac with one guy from SAA group. Now it seems he should put on some muscle, because when all the fat is gone, he looks kind of "underdeveloped" on the top. - He stopped (well, I forced him) to browse all p-subs in trashy "news" sites and reading fantasy books (which, I learned later, were of sexual nature for the most part), and he used to do that all day every day while we were together, since he couldn't openly watch porn all day in front of me. In fact, he now reads real news for about 1-2 hours per day in a text-only newsreader app (there might be one small cover picture of Trump here and there, ha ha!, but no half-dressed celebrities). - He became more depressed and sad, since he is now more in touch with his feelings, and his are mainly negative. That will take some therapy to resolve. He has booked an appointment already. Also, I refuse to participate in mindless small talk with him, so he has nothing to talk about. I told him "Real conversations or nothing", so for now it's nothing. That makes him sad and unsure of himself, but hopefully he realizes we can't have a relationship without the REAL stuff. - He is getting a bit less defensive, when I talk about my trauma and triggers. He used to always have a defensive reply to everything I said, and that would trigger/traumatize me further. Since he noticed his "tactics" have a detrimental effect on me and our relationship, he reduced them somewhat. Nowadays he just sits there and listens in silence and after a while may even say "I'm sorry". - He basically took over housework and food shopping, since I'm stuck at home avoiding triggers and people. I sleep half a day and hide on the balcony the other half. He cooks, cleans, and even attends to kids some. - He never takes his devices to the toilet or bedroom. If he needs to take any of them to the bedroom (if someone calls at night with an emergency), he asks my permission. - He still doesn't share openly, without being asked first. - He still doesn't have a real sponsor or an accountability partner that would be well ahead of his progress. OK, that's all for now. Hopefully I mentioned the most "sticking out" things.
for selfish reasons (motivating me to continue the fight) this is such an encouraging thread. Thanks, all!
I posted the lists... I know you have asked about them before... I gave them their own thread. I'm glad he's making progress I'm happy for you!
Changes I've seen... He's overall happier Smaller forearms. Straighter back and better posture Better eye contact Less angry And less defensive Chattier Smiles more Creative (has his own ideas) Ambitious Adventurous More touchy feely Overall more sensitive to his feelings Listens better Clearer skin Other physical symptoms... Not sure if related Even more annoying morning person