Mine, too. This guy doesn't understand that sex is not as important as our addicted minds make it appear. Sex is nothing, love is everything.
You have two options here: Option 1: Trust those of us who have gone before you. For the most part, I think we universally agree that if you go back to porn, you will be less satisfied sexually and less happy with your life, not more. Option 2: Go back to porn, and just learn the same lesson the hard way. It seems like you're dead-set on Option 2. We certainly can't stop you.
I actually don't think it takes years, I think how long it takes truly involves the dedication and motivation of the person who is trying to change. You will see small changes overtime if the person truly wants to change. You cannot expect an immediate 360 but I think you can expect to see something. The only reason I say this is because it echoes my partner early on. "I have to change at my own pace. You cannot push me. It takes time I have been like this for years." But in reality the time that it was taking was just him not being willing to change at all and relying on the notion that it takes time, to buy himself more time. If the addict or person wants to change he will. And if he wants to take his time or change at his own pace, then he will most likely lose his partner. I read a lot of younger men on here saying oh I will change once i get a partner, I don't need to now I am single. Except when they get a partner, they have been PMOing so long, that it is VERY difficult to change and then there is a chrunch time to change. I think many men on her eif they had to go back knowing what they know now would stop to avoid the pain they feel in their own relationships currently.
Now this is true. You are totally right. "It takes time" means "I hesitate". I often saw: When you suddenly make some step, then immediatedly a lot of things change. Also, with many projects, you have a long a time of hesitating, and nothing happens. Then suddenly you get a rush, and many things are getting done surprisingly quick and within shortest time! I think people who are highly successful (like popular musicians and successful entrepeneurs) are people who simply do not hesitate. They just do. Therefore, they can do so much in a rather short time.
@Hornykid I just relapsed to a 310 day streak. I am in denial right now I have depression so bad I just want to snort heroin again. Take it from me, porn will get you nothing except PIED, brain fog, and social anxiety. I also don't know what you mean by "girls my age only want relationships". Idk where you live but here in the USA high school and college girls are literally spreading their legs with this modern third wave equality feminism bs we got going on now lol. Girls are not afraid to be sluts, simply dress cool and talk good and you can easily fuck a girl. Just go on Facebook find some party, go to the party, drink some alcohol, find a girl, fuck her. Mission accomplished. Now if you watch porn and get PIED then you physically CAN'T have sex. Stop this bs "girls don't want sex" myth, girls have always wanted sex. There always some sluts out there especially around parties. You know porn is bad, we know it's difficult to quit, but dude, if I had only quit when I was 17 (I'm 21) I would have fucked some many bad bitches (I'm not a virgin, but PIED made me pass up alot of sexual encounters). Get off your ass and go to a party where people are drunk as shit you will find women son
I don't go to parties my mom won't let me. And normal girls don't want sex most of them want relationships I wouldn't have said it if I didn't try to find a girl to have sex with. I tried.
Why the fuck would you tell your mom your going to a party? Just tell her you're hanging out with your friends for the night and go to a party. Do you drive? Do you have money? Are you attractive? Average? Ugly? Doesn't matter there's always some girl willing to fuck. Do you know how to talk to girls? I will say this one last time. You have been jacking off to porn and you're a virgin. Therefore porn is all you know. You need to quit now before it's too late. If you continue, porn will destroy your ability to get an erection naturally. If you relapse, it's all over 'kid'. Goodbye and good luck.
See a therapist. You have serious self-defeating attitudes and a world view that is rather destructive. There is nothing wrong with getting help. We all need it at times. Go. Get some help.
Thank you. To tell you the truth I too am struggling with the thought of relapse. I just lost 310 days and I can't get those images of porn out of my mind. I understand where hornykid is coming from the difference is he has +90 days and I now have only 3. I have more of an excuse to relapse then him... I was just trying to save this man's progress.
Don't go back to porn. Do pursue real life women, be confident, be yourself, be interesting. Go after women boldly. You won't catch them all, but if you play your cards right, you will eventually make connections. "Every shot not taken is a miss". -Wayne Gretzky
Yeah you are a loser your such a loser. Hey it's weird right? When people are done feeling sorry for you? This entire thread is you basically saying *give me attention*
You can't feel sorry for others then why should anyone feel sorry for you? You want to die and you haven't even started life yet. To be honest, all you've done is whine, yet you berate others for doing so. People have no obligation to care about others - they never have and never will. Now you want to go murder people? Hell, even I never had THAT problem.
Hey when I whine I just want help and to get better. This guy however just negates ALL help and advice. I don't there is a difference. The murder thing could be more of my sociopathic trait and because I'm fucked up