During the Depp v Heard trial, I read somewhere on that subreddit that it is better to get a girl who is average looking than one that everybody desire for - dated a girl who wasn't the best looking to those I dated but we had so much fun with each other. At the same time, I dated another who was much younger (in her early 20s) and better looking. She didn't show any enthusiasm, we barely connected with each other even if I tried. one good example of this is Amber Heard - you know it all, got married, made his life hell, then milked him for $7 million, then tried to destroy his life by crying about DV and we all had fun watching the trial
You gotta go for what makes you happy, my friend. Looks are great but if you have nothing in common, what's the point? I don't know that I would agree that it is better to get an average looking girl, but an average looking girl who makes you laugh is a pretty good deal. Anyway, if you grow close with each other she will start looking better and better to you. I have been married almost 34 years and my wife is better looking to me than she ever was. Good luck.
I cannot relate to being a virgin in my late 20s. I lost my virginity when I was 15. Most people have sex for the first time at a young age, but some don't. It happens. It might suck but it happens through sheer circumstance. Of course you can't be "indifferent" to them. You are becoming older and wish to settle down with a woman you love and have children with, no? This is the primary objective of any lifeform so it is normal to have thoughts of women in your head constantly. It is in your genes. You are programmed to behave this way. That's the thing, you CAN! You can get the type of girl you crave, but this will only come in time and with determination and patience. You need to build yourself up first. This is just the way the world works I'm afraid. Well there's your problem. You admit to not going out, yet you want to have the girl of your dreams. It does not work that way. You need to apply yourself even if it makes you uncomfortable. I know the feeling, believe me. As far as you being "not well put together", this relates greatly to the above comment of mine. You NEED to build yourself up, my friend. No, it's not stupid to worry about. Do not tell yourself this lie to cope. Love, commitment, sex, and having children are important things. Things that cannot be overlooked. Things that are necessary for the continuation of the human species. Do not deny yourself these human rights. You just need to take a deep breath, prepare yourself for any additional suffering you will meet in the future, and take complete control of your life. This is YOUR life!
Well, it's better to start caring about yourself now then later, when you may be in a serious relationship. I was 26 when I finally went into online dating (not Tinder etc., something smaller and specialized, for people who actually want to get into a relationship and further) and met my now fiancée. I still am a virgin and intend to stay so until marriage (which makes NoFap even more hard). I would say I'm pretty normal and average looking (btw, as >190cm, I can state that girls give a shit about height!), more introverted but not afraid to hold a conversation, and I thought I got most of my shit together. But I do not, I had to find out the hard way. Women are much more complex than I even imagined, even the very good ones. So now ,when you still have the time and energy to get a grip on your own life, that's exactly what I can advise you to do. Get a hobby you are interested in, take care of your health, build good habits, stop smoking etc., learn cooking, read, stop watching porn and masturbating, and so on and so on. But most importantly, take care of your mental health! Work out your issues, try to understand your own mind, your thinking. Learn to live with yourself. From my own experience: I quit watching porn when we were still dating (not together yet). No big problem so far. But then I had a relapse, and I did not confess to her. That nearly crushed our relationship. And why did I had a relapse? Well firstly, because I was an idiot, but secondly, because I did not thought that I would need external help to overcome porn addiction. I did not consider that I had an addiction, so I did not work out my inner problems. That's an advice I can give you. Take care of yourself now, you'll need it later!
Well, that might be a pretty pessimistic outlook on life. While it's true that life doesn't always work out the way we want it to and things don't always go according to plan, that doesn't mean we can't still achieve our goals and find happiness. And who's to say we can't be the hero of our own story? We may not get the traditional Hollywood happy ending, but we can still create a meaningful and fulfilling life for ourselves.
Most of this is just Oneitis and extremely unhealthy. It’s a fantasy that unfortunately a lot of guys build up in their head.
I see myself in the unraveling hole. It doesn't get better when you say, "what's the point". I'll keep trying, hoping for a better outcome. But maybe I will realize the conclusion that its over worldly absurd.
When men have trouble with the opposite sex, it boils down to a confidence problem, and the root of that goes back to the earnings and/or fitness.
Earnings is just beta bucks. Guys shouldnt lead with their wallets if theyre interested in genuine desire.
Amen to that! I just don't talk about money or work if I am meeting a woman. Just talk about her. She is the only subject...
Good post, you are not alone! Better to be single than in a unhappy relationship is how I put a positive spin on it.
Yeah. Alone is not so bad. It has an automatic negative connotation. But being alone has been very positive in my life, compared to when I was married or dating.
No, but it is a logical reaction. Most of the world fears loneliness, and they'll take up some pretty absurd tactics to avoid it.
