Fetish Struggles (Warning: Potential Triggers)

What makes you unable to resist? If you were about to start M and all the sudden, you realized the building was on fire you'd probably wouldn't M and you'd run out of the building, right?

So the first step is to change your mindset. You can resist- you just need to find the right tools that work for you to help you resist. We've all at times felt helpless or like this is controlling us - that's why we're here.. if you seek you will find a away to overcome it.

 

welp i can relate myself...
guess it tends to sexualize the mundane and then just going through a normal day and there they are.
i just look away rather than let my mind start that projecting improper thoughts given opportunity will lead me back

 

I have also struggled with fetishes, especially ones that show up everyday. How long have you been trying to reboot? When you first try to kick its going to be pretty hard. Keep focused on not pmo'ing it you'll find it easier to resist triggers.

 

well i've kinda rebooted several times since rehab for cr*ck addiction about two years ago more than once stringing together 80/90 days of no PMO only to relapse on both, the last 1/2 of 2016 into 17 saw a stretch of well onto maybe seven months but again i relapsed again into both, repeatedly...
this time i am honestly trying to address the sexual/behavioral issue(s) as i've come to realize it the driving force behind the chemical addiction
so this is it, instead of mindlessly scrolling through Facebook *or porn* it's a lot of 'Ted Talks' on youtube and Nofap site instead
trying to understand WHY i've become this way and seeking a solid form of change rather than just 'White Knuckling It'

=^,^=

 

Hey guys Im on day one without porn, but on day 7 without masturbation and I have a huge foot fetish and for me not to watch tv or see a women in sandals and sets a binge going where I would masturbate 4 times a day looking at porn vids, I need to keep bounce my eyes and not fantasizes. Its a hard hard road.

 

actually tho i tend to have rather hardcore fetish based fantasies as an ongoing exercise am trying to make my focus on women as a whole person rather than some arcane detail about them...
it seems to be working, should i find myself falling back into the old behavior(s) i simply look away, clear my mind, do not mentally chastise myself but remember how badly i want normalcy
good luck, it's not so daunting if you remember all we have to do is no PMO today
...and then again the same tomorrow
time WILL heal us, trust the process

\m/=^,^=\m/

 

I'm struggling with the same issue, I have a vivid imagination so when an idea or fetish pops in my head the imagination takes it away fast. I can only do a couple of things at this point in my journey, either take a cold shower, if my wife is around start working the sexual energy on her, or get very involved in something like work. I also struggle with very vivid wet dreams that almost make me ejaculate in my sleep, this used to happen to me when I was hitting puberty, now it feels nice (kinda) but it's also a trigger for me.

 

One thing that can be helpful is starting an activity that it's not tied to the computer screen. I myself have been watching a lot of videos, reading the forum and also articles but that can be seen as an internet addiction or computer addiction which doesn't help you be more social or even being active. A better approach would be to develop an active hobby or exercise which in turn can give our brain the dopamine it craves.

 

Guilty. I have a fetish for swinging videos. can't shake it. so hard to get what really turned you on out of your mind.

 

oww..hard times indeed.

 

I have a women's prison fetish especially cavity/strip searches and shower scenes.

 

I like pantyhose and transgendered people

 

I know that feeling, it is very hard to control fetish. And the only way to avoid imagination is focusing, so we should find another interesting thing, and spend time on the right thing.

 

Fetishes are hard to control

 

Sounds like you are having vivid dry dreams, if they only almost make you ejaculate, you don't get wet, and you retain.