I like facebook for messaging with people. But instagram, snapchat, tinder. Have no good use for me. I only lust on people. I tried quitting social media a year ago. But I felt so lonely I came back. Does anyone quit social media? and how does is it feel quitting?
I initially gave up Facebook for Lent. Part of the reason was to avoid triggering images, as I had just begun to take stopping PMO seriously. When Lent ended, I did not go back. Didn’t miss it. The first week of August, I needed to go on to see if my Facebook friends had gotten promoted. The levels of vitriol and useless information was repugnant. It was exactly like some people on here describe going back to porn after leaving (I don’t advocate “testing” yourself. I for one relapsed in classic alcoholic descriptive style; one view and I was immediately looking at my old favorite topics). Anyways, quitting was a positive experience for me. I recommend giving it at least a 40 day trial
Not completely. I've quit Tinder and other dating apps like 1 year ago. I deleted an account on Facebook 2 times but I use it again because of my university group. Otherwise, I woudn't use it. That's my main social account and I've got Twitter but I rarely use it. I was more closed on real people, especially women because I had attention (kind of) when I've had dating apps. Later, I realised that all of this lowered my self-esteem too. I think also my social phobia reached higher level. But I believe it varies from person to person.
@sparkywantsnoPMO I am not willing to quit messenger of facebook. Cause I find this somehow useful. But facebook, the pages, the news, the memes, the stories. That's always bullshit and that's what i want to quit. And ofcours the triggers on other social media. Question for you, didn't you feel lonely quitting social media? Thanks for reply
I still have messenger. If a person wants to talk to me, great. I guess years later I'm grateful Facebook split the two apps. Lonely? Not at all. Now in fairness, at the same time, I challenged myself to start building some analog life relationships. I got to know my neighbors better and spend time doing things with them. I became part of the accounting team at my church, and socialized with people there. I learned to get more involved with my coworkers' social events. Was it awkward? Yes. But, it's paid off. The key is how you use the tools. FB Messenger can be a fine tool for communicating with people, if you do so in a healthy manner.
I have been mostly off of snap chat, instagram, and facebook. I have only checked each of them a handful of times for about 2.5 months. I have really liked it. I am on them for things like messenger and groups, but I do not spend any time looking through either of these right now. I am really happy that I have. I am no longer wasting my time or getting into the mode of wishing I was doing something else or with someone or why I don't have what they have.
I don't use Kik or Snapchat I had a sexting problem, and I stay away for that reason. This stuff ruins people.
I won't disagree with you. To maybe make oneself a general rule, do you think this would be a good start? : Avoid tools that require or encourage you to avoid getting to know and connecting to a person prior to having a level of real or virtual intimacy?
I deactivated Facebook about a week ago, but I had to rejoin because I was in contact with my new landlord through it to get information about my lease. When it was deactivated, I went 5 days of no PMO which I guess was a result of not being exposed to triggers. However, once I reactivated, I relapsed 4 times over the weekend. I deactivated again though. Let's see how it goes.
Also, another reason why I've gotten rid of all social media (Facebook, Instagram Snapchat, Twitter) was because it gives people a false view of other people's lives. People only post the good things happening in their lives which leads you to assume that their lives are great, which in turn makes you feel bad about yourself and jealous of them. It was also a huge distraction at work and a waste of time at home.
The only fun thing about social media, is that it gives dopamine, excitement when you see what something has accomplished. Or what you're crush will wear.. But it makes us frustrated and angry. It's a time waste. and it's virtual.
It's a waste of time. I quit years ago. I was one of the first people that had Facebook at my school day in the day. I was probably the first to give it up. Haven't been on it for at least 5 years, maybe 7. Can't really remember. The site is pointless imo and annoying. People desperate for attention and likes from memory and to have as many "friends" as possible. Social media has ruined our society even more and ruined and damaged a lot of young minds imo
I don't have Facebook, never been a fan. But recently deleted Tinder, Snapchat and Instagram. Temptation Central, all of them. Haven't given up Twitter yet but that's on it's way out the door soon, also.
recently deleted all my social media. Initially feels lonely but the hope is I'll be able to get over lusting and procrastination w/o these distractions
