What should I do if I have an urge?

Douse yourself in freezing cold water.

Punch yourself in the face.

Do some wall squats.

Do wall squats while taking a cold shower and punching yourself in the face.

 

Get in touch with me. if you need to go through this together i can help.

 

Do something else.

Honestly. I know it sounds like "duh" advice. But if you just sit there, white-knuckling it while you sit by yourself in a lonely apartment, you're destined to give in.

You have to change gears, take initiative, and do something else. Go to a coffee shop and read a book. Go for a walk/jog/run. Call and catch up with a friend. Do 30 pushups. Just do something.

 

Understand that this is normal. Keep yourself busy throughout the day. Workout/run hard. Listen to music. Pick up a hobby. There are a million things you could than "trying to not relapse".

 

@SuperFan, planting some very heavy seeds there for those that are using a bit of quiet time in their recovery. For some spending alone time actually helps them deal with the root of their thoughts & problems. Can't run forever.

I'll agree it's not for everyone and for me it's my biggest challenge every day but also the one that let's me know I'm making the most progress.

Even Superman spent time in his fortress of solitude right?

 

Learning how to be still during an urge is important

 

I had terrible urge this morning, but i didn't fap.

Just go out, i go to local park and walk, read book or something.

 

Learn to meditate

 

Try and remind yourself that the urge is only temporary, ignore the thoughts and feelings to the best of your ability and try to find something else to focus on.

 

or you can go crazy and run as fast as you can around the block or do as many pushups as you can. If the urges are strong enough staying still and meditating won't help and they may even worsen your racing mind.

 

It can also help quiet your mind. To each his own.

 

I'm so sorry mate I couldn't write to you today as i've said yesterday. I worked all day... I had my challange last night. The urge grew quit alarming in me last night as well, but i've managed it well. For this i'm grateful to the possibility to do so.

Just a quick tip that i can share with you: all the time when you feel you have the urge to masturbate, speculate and assume is a depression symptom. I don't say to think about yourself being depressed all the time, but now and then when you get this depressive state. Because of this i advice you to treat it strictly as a medical condition, for the moment. Like a neuro-physiological situation that can beexplored by reading about depression, happiness, thiroid and dopamine.

In a later email i'll tell you my emotional, psychological and spiritual perception on this situation.

The goal of this e-mail is to make you courios to see all the time when you get aroused what is at the end of the arousing situation when the urge ends and you have the ability to see clearer.

Get more curious mate!

Good luck mate!