howdy! New here. Dealing with a severe porn addiction for the last decade. Damn internet. Just need an outlet as I am trying to make a complete change. It's terribly effecting my sex life. I have been married for almost 12 years. No need for details but I need to "reset".
Hey man, one thing that helped me through the various times that tried rebooting was running. It releases endorphines and is also something you can build on and attach goals to.
I have skipped sex with my wife to PMO. It's quite embarrassing to admit. She is extremely attractive. Very fit and beautiful, but there have been times in the past that she hinted at sex and i declined because I needed to PMO. If she leaves the house with the kids it's the only thing I think about. I think my ticket will be to energize our sex life and use her constant willingness for sex to be the reason I abstain. This is day 1--and you all are now my accountability partners Thanks for reading...
Thanks for the tip by the way, I have joined the gym recently so that I can start getting healthier and to build further confidence.
Random Guy TX: Just to help you out. I am on Day 18 and recently married. I was doing the same thing with my wife...having to create a schedule for sex around my PMO and it's awful. Just letting you know we had sex this past Friday and it was the best one in a long time. It will get better from abstaining!
I came to the same realization as you TX! When PMO runs my life and causes me to miss out on enjoying a fulfilling sex life with the woman I love, well, that's when I realized I was truly an addict and needed help. Throw out everything that stands in the way of reaching that goal. I know you can do it! There's always help here on nofap when you need it too!
Thanks Jon! It sucks that I have waited this long before I sought the help and encouragement of others. Not for me though, for my wife. I will do it for both of us.
Day 2, still holding strong! Had sex with my wife last night. That will be a huge part of this going forward.
That's great TX! Keep that streak going! Not sure what your triggers are at the moment, but I've recognized that being alone with idle time on my hands is a bad situation. Having a plan in place for what I'm going to do when temptation hits helps me deal with it. Usually it involves signing in to nofap and getting support here until the urge passes! Great job, and glad to see you around here.
Thanks Jon! My trigger, frankly, is being left alone. As soon as I get alone time and access to my phone, I was immediately going to porn sites. You are right though, coming straight to Nofap shuts down the urges.