Hello. I've been a NoFapper on and off the past few months. I realized that I was feeding a sickening industry by watching porn and distorting a healthy view on sex and woman. Oddly enough each relapse worsened my addiction. I stopped watching porn for over a month now, but I replaced my addiction for porn with chatrooms. I feel ashamed. Some time ago I've met an amazing girl. We're in a relationship for a few weeks now and she is amazing. Slowly sexual contact is happening and I suddenly got very scared. I still think hugging, cuddling, kissing and generally spending time together is 1000% more exciting than ány porn video or chatroom topic, yet it became necessary for me to orgasm. What if the same thing happens if I'm in bed with this amazing girl? And it's so silly. Because it makes me so happy to just simply imagine her smile, or hug. I get zero enjoyment out of pornographic topics. Yet that is exactly the requirement for an orgasm when masturbating. I've given this many shots, and I've failed many times with horrible relapses. Could I get some advice, tips? or maybe similar stories? I'm very afraid my relationship might suffer from this. Thank you
You need to relax and be honest. Im confident in you that everything will work out fine with this girl. Limit or quit the chatrooms if you feel it is becoming an addiction for you. If you are nervous and not comfortable enough around this girl to be honest with her you might have problems. Good luck.
Great job on not watching pornography for the past month! That is really something! I'm not quite sure what advice to give you but here goes nothing haha. I don't know who you are, but in know this. That your times of trouble, your times of relapse, your times that have brought you guilt and shame, they have not come to stay. They have come to pass. They Will not last. Whatever it is, you can and you will get through it. So you say that chat rooms are your problem. So get rid of Your problem. You have identified your problem, which is great, now get rid of it. I'm not sure exactly how chat rooms work because in have never, and plan on never going into one. Stop going into it. Stop going to the websote. Block it from you internet browser, so that even if you wanted to, you could not access it. You can do the same thing for pornography as well. A great tool that a lot of fapstronauts on here use is called K9 web protection. It works great at blocking any material you do not wish to view, whether that be adult material, or on your case, chat rooms. You have done a great job at ridding yourself of your pornography problem, now do the same with your chat room problem. You can do this! May God be with you as you enter you journey! Peace and God Bless!
