I did this a few years ago. I was very sexually confused. to be honest it feels good that I'm not alone on this. what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
You cannot say no one is gay, it's all in their head. That's like saying that no one is left-handed, it's all in their head!
Please leave that crap out of this thread. It's not helpful in any way, shape, or form. Make your own thread if you want to have a discussion about that, not in a thread where someone is trying to overcome issues. To the OP, porn has caused my sexuality to become confused at times. I know I'm straight, but porn has a way of distorting your sexual reality. I've quit porn for prolonged periods of time before I heard of NoFap ... as a promise to a previous girlfriend ... and I can tell you from my own experience that my sexuality after a few months was reset to baseline. So I know, at least for me personally, that this works. Now that there's actual science backing these experiences, it helps reinforce what I've discovered about myself. I'm hoping to stay off it for good this time. I think I'll do better since I'm not doing this for someone else, but for me.
I should probably not respond to this one, but here's what I think nonetheless. Sounds like your addiction(s) -- which besides P may involve S, too -- prompted you into an experience you were not ready for. The answer? (a) Stick to your reboot. it's the way to health. (b) Of course, you couldn't like the experience if you were so alarmed all along (self-fulfilling prophecy) (c) Under those circumstances, a little ED doesn't prove anything. (d) Do you honestly think the mouths of men and women are so radically dissimilar? (e) These gay-straight labels imprison our minds and then we stress if reality proves to be a tad more complex. (f) Since Kinsey, we should have learned that sexuality is more of a continuum than a binary setting (g) No need to "forget the experience" just to adopt a slightly more expanded view of reality (shit happens; we move on). (g) Of course, you can still choose MF over MM and be proud, strong and healthy about it (h) But to inflate P-related urges and confusion to the point of calling it OCD, even HOCD? I'm skeptical, to say the least. (i) Wash it all down with a goodly dose of straight P? Are you still listening to that addiction? (i) Stick to the reboot, but in hard mode ... so as not to allow the addiction(s) to talk you into any further detours! Good luck!
All very good points. Human sexuality is a very complex subject that spans a wide spectrum. And for me personally, I don't find anything wrong with anyone's sexuality unless it's harming others. Of course, I feel that way about most things. People should be allowed to do what they want as long as it doesn't cause harm to another human being. Like you said, confining ourselves to labels is a prison ... and it only serves to exacerbate our internal struggles. We should not judge ourselves by the way we feel and instead seek to find a deeper meaning into who we are as individuals.
Not fair on the guy either. But I kind of get it. You needed to KNOW. So I understand why you did it and now you know it was porn and not your true sexuality
But I don't want you to judge yourself. Like you can let it MOTIVATE you though kinda like OMG I was so porn addicted it even lead to me having sex with a GUY!! But well we've all done crazy things, things we regret and yeah I know porn can mess with the sexual identity and I just want to say ((((hugs))))) It's gonna be OK and hang in there and please try not to beat yourself up about this. Cheesy though it may sound (sorry!) we're hear for you.
Atlantacus & IGY are right. Porn will only make things worse - look what it has already lead to, something you feel terrible about - and it's the porn speaking saying "oh watch me and I will block it out yay!" No, it WON'T help, porn is what got you there in the first place or at least most of what did. So don't give it that power. Find your OWN.
Well I already kinda don't remember it, so I didn't watch the porn to try and forget it. Normally I remember things down to a tee especially if it happened just a day ago but yeah I don't really remember.
