18 y/o boy, doing fap from age of 14/15

Salam and Hi everyone.

I'm an 18 years old boy from Iran, and my religion is Islam (شیعه). I first fapped when I was 14 or 15, and it didn't felt good at first (I thought I pissed myself), but it was a new feeling for me. At first, I wasn't aware of the effect of masturbation, so I fapped many times, until last year that I felt the effects. I became bad at looking, listening, remembering, saving energy, focusing, etc.

I decieded to control myself, prevent myself from fapping. I did that by befriending with a nice girl. she and I were at same age, and had very good time, although we didn't meet eachother physically. For reasons that are not suitable here, we broke up. and you can guess it: I started fapping again, until now.

Although fapping is taboo in Islam, but I can't control myself. even I say my prayers, etc, Its still hard for me to do so.

I want to stop this. right now, I'm in middle of a very critical life situation, where I should have a lot of energy, life force, good spirit, and hope. so fapping will be like toxic for me.

yesterday I was searching in the internet for stories about not fapping, and I found this website: NoFap. I really like and love the community and its users. I want to change with the help of NoFap, with the help of you guys, and ofcourse, with the great help of Allah.


ps: I'm not very good at writing my personal stories, so forgive me if you found goofy things in my story.

 

Salam and Hi! thanks for your bracing comment, I really appreciate it!

yeah, Islam prohibited masturbation (and other things like drinking alcohol, liaison, lying, and so many things) before it became a big concern for young people around the world, but unfortunately, we Iranian moslems couldn't and can't observe and apply the basis of Islam very well, and sexual issues is one of these basises. when our teenagers don't know properly about this and their parents don't speak about it with their kids, bad things like masturbating and other nasty things happens. yes, masturbating is something big amoung our moslem teens, even though we are moslem. when their heard about lust for the first time from a bad and unreliable source (like their classmates, etc), in most of the time they heard about masturbation with it too. and even worse, they get the masturbating materials very easily, although our government censored and is censoring every porn-related content like porn websites, anime streamers, foreign media and even videogames, but still these contents are getting to our teens very easily. one of the most reasons of this, is that most kids in these days, will get their hands one smart phones and Internet before they even attend to school! and their parents won't even control their kid's phone and the contents in it.

most of our teens who falls to this nightmare won't come back as far as I know. its like drugs, getting free from it needs the help of family and friends and Allah. if they don't tell their problem to their relatives, its cery hard to get away from lust and masturbation.

yep, things are very complex in Islam, especially in Iran. And its just because we made it like this.

hope this answered your questions!

 

I feel you man, masturbating can ruin the life silently...

My first sign of masturbating was appearing a black stain in my view. Its still here up to this day. In those days, I fapped once in 3-4 days basis. The second sign was that I didn't feel the same spirit I had before, an spirit that always made me feel energic and happy. Sometimes I can find this spirit, but it won't stay with me for a long time. I missed the old happy part of me so much...

I really hope and I want from Allah that I manage to get the spirit and energy once again, and this time I'll keep it forever!

I agree with you, we should support and help each other to get away from this bad and unhealthy behavior. You can count on me ;-) Allah be with you!

 

Salam and Hi.

Well, my strategy for now is to limit myself from using Internet. right now internet can distract me from my mission very easily. occupying my time with studying and watching soccer can be very effective, too. and I should remember that Allah is always with me, got my back and watches every single thing I do. this warms my heart and cautions me.