my name is mohamed, and i am new here, please guys can you tell how you stayed motivated on the long run? just to prepare myself. sorry for my English.
Your English is fine, don't worry. Welcome in our community. There must have been a reason you registered here. You feel addicted to anything, P or M? Most people who come here want to get rid of their addiction. So this motivates them in the first place. Being addicted to something limits our joy of life. I am not porn addicted (thanks God) and I just wanted to get rid of M as a habit. My motivation is the true happiness that's often results from sexual abstinence. In some sence I think motivation should be related on something beautiful I want to experience in my life - not on something negative I want to get rid of. I am sure in this community you will get the motivation which is right for you. Mabe you want to make a commitment (to yourself, not to the community) and start your NO-PM-journey. Will not be easy but will be worth the effort. ENJOY!
When I was younger, I was very anti-social and more than a little misogynistic. I wanted to end my porn-viewing habits, but I couldn't think of anything to replace it besides other selfish thrills. Therefore, it was impossible to quit porn because that meant giving up something that made me feel good, which went against my core philosophy of being entirely self-centered. I've since learned that relationships are worth having and that selflessness brings a lot more joy than pain. I've had a desire to quit porn for years, but I only started seeing results when I completely changed my views of women and people in general. For the past six months, I've become friendlier and a lot more productive. I've gained a lot of friends, and I mean GENUINE friends who care for me, and I for them. This includes young men and women that are my age, married couples, older men who act as mentors, and for the past few weeks, a girl whom I've been slowly growing closer to (fingers crossed). I still stumble a lot, but my motivation to love and be of service to others is leading me to get up and keep moving. Sometimes I find myself believing that life without porn is frustrating, or dreary, but then I realize that life is so much better without porn if you're patient enough to see the fruits of your struggles. It's not easy, but it's the most rewarding thing in the world.
Yes, i registered here to quit Porn , i more addicted to the idea of porn than to masturbating. I know that it will not be an easy journey but fortunately i am determined to succeed.
1) I made a list of the reasons I am quitting and I keep them with me 2) I learn as much as I can to help understand what my body is going through. Once you know that the withdrawals are normal, and they are temporary, and necessary, it becomes easier to withstand the urges. 3) I found healthy activities to do when I'm stressed instead of porn, such as play guitar or play a board game.
