Hi, 18 days in and i have had wet dreams thrice. For some reason, i feel real miserable everytime i wake up with pants soiled like that. I have tried to stay strong and have been away from PMO, but these incidents are discouraging me. I feel anxious while going to sleep, which a kind of against the effects of this abstinence drive- gaining confidence and self worth, self control. But, even if i control myself during the day, i can do nothing about it in the night. I have googled abt it, and, they advice some medicines but i am not too sure abt them. So PLEASE, help me... Am i the only one having this problem and if u had it too, then what did you do? If it is can not be stopped, how can i deal with it on an emotional level
What you experience is completely natural. You are a sexual being, and your brain and subconscious want to keep you that way. And you should not feel bad about it, because it is not something that you can consciously change, and actually healthy for you to ejaculate at least every other week. Wet dreams are something completely different from actively PMOing, where you jack off to porn to get your fix of the day. Wet dreams are something that your mind and imagination creates when you need it, and that's a good thing. Porn is not something you create yourself, you just passively consume it. Dreams are something that you actively make yourself. It is always an accomplishment to have one. Anyway, because wet dreams are something you cannot control any more than your other dreams or nightmares, you are not actually breaking your abstinence, and thus you should not feel worthless or that you cannot control yourself.
Thanks, But is there any way of preventing them from happening. Even if i condition my mind to not feel shitty everytime i have one of thsee dreams, i still feel dirty (physically) and i wish they stopped. I tried something which sort-of worked- i stopped drinking fluids an hour before sleeping and peed right before going to bed (had read somewhere that pressure because of piss can heighten sexual urges). i still had nightdreams, hence the post. So, plz feel free to post any ideas to prevent nightfalls ??
Could you tell what you try to achieve by abstaining from seemingly everything sexual? Or is that you want to fulfill the moral requirements for religious reasons or something like that?
i'm not sure if i am abstaining from everything sexual. I am against Porn and Masturbation (both are linked in my case). By abstaining from PMO, what i have achieved till now is -i have a lot of free time, which i could have used for porn and other media(earlier, even if i stopped watching porn, i used to watch trashy movies with lots of of women and less of clothes, convincing myself its all right, until and unless it is some hardcore shit. In the end, MO) -i feel confident, atleast i think i do to some degree. I have talked to many people in this period since a long time which i wouldnt have earlier -i took up a musical instrument what more i wish -have a girlfriend , and a serious relationship with her. So, no, i am not against "everyting sexual" and i not sure how u got that feel. -become more confident and feel good abt myself and my body I have read many of the success stories in the forums and i fervently wish to achieve what they have achieved because of quitting porn and masturbation. Hope i answered ur question... and if u could answer mine plz feel free to comment, thanks
Well, do you consider wet dreams to be porn or masturbation? I don't think it qualifies being either. It isn't porn because it isn't women posing in pictures for your pleasure like some products, and it isn't masturbation because you are not pleasuring yourself, and it's not like it's your decision anyway. If it's neither, you have no reason to be against it and no reason to feel bad that you are a healthy man.
Things I've learned since taking on my challenge: PMO is about a false reward for the brain and damages your social interaction with others because you are rewarding your subconscious for NOT being social, for NOT talking to others, for NOT having intimacy in your life. in my opinion MO every day is just as bad, but MO once in a while (as long as you don't end up binging/relapsing and repeatedly MO to exhaustion) is ok. I think the brain most highly rewards the presence of novel females, which is why PMO is such a strong addiction, especially with the endless material now available on the internet - this novelty is unprecedented (unless maybe you're hugh heffner!) Erections are healthy (blood flow to the penis ensures healthy tissues) Expending old semen is necessary (either by a wet dream, dicharge during urination or masturbation) I think night dreams might be the subconscious trying to fill in something that is no longer present in the short term. I had one in which I woke to find myself masturbating while asleep! after 17 days i'm sure the images are still very strong in your mind, give it time and it will fade as you are no longer feeding the stimulus during the day.
Thanks, for the advice and i will heed it. I know these dreams are neither porn or masturbation but still i feel guilty, even though its not logical. I guess i have to convince my brain
