Houston, We Have a Problem

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by MonkeyHeaven, Apr 18, 2017.

  1. MonkeyHeaven

    MonkeyHeaven Fapstronaut

    Greetings, fellows! A brief introduction is in order I believe.

    After discovering internet pornography when I was just 9 years old, you could say my view and perception of sex has been warped for a long time. I'm now 25, and how little did I know the damage that porn and an unnatural and artificial sexual development could do later down the line.

    I first started masturbating when I was around 13 or 14, but as already said viewed sexual imagery from a much younger age. I was a shy and reserved child, tendencies which remained with me in my teenage years. I didn't go on a date until I was 17, and didn't lose my virginity until I was 20. Sex with a real woman was always a tremendously nervous experience, and erectile dysfunction inevitably ensued. I always blamed nerves, drugs, or inexperience for my ED.

    Recently, I met an amazing woman. We've been dating for a few months, and I think she's the woman I'm going to marry. However, when she performed oral sex on me for the first time, I realised something strange. Something strange which had happened with my previous partners too, but which I had never paid any attention to. I was fantasising about porn.

    My mind wasn't on this girl at all, rather some lurid scene I'd witnessed online the previous night. Whenever we did anything together - kiss, cuddle, fondle - my mind would always go to porn. I knew then I had a problem. We've tried having sex a few times; sometimes the little guy wants to join in, other times not. It's still porn I crave, not a real woman. The ED is worrying me, to the point I've ordered sexual performance pills from an online pharmacy.

    And so, I decided enough was enough. I found this site and have embarked on my journey of 'real' sexual development. Better late than never, I guess. I hope you guys can support me. As I'm with a partner, I'll be abstaining from P-M but not O. I'm hoping this can rewire my brain to what it should be, and not what internet porn has molded it into.

    If my journey is successful, and I notice an improvement/recovery in my ED, I will be another testimonial for how long-term porn use can damage your brain and libido, but also how NoFap's methods can resolve the problem.
     
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  2. Marcel0404

    Marcel0404 Guest

    Welcome in NoFap-Community.
    I like your post, you are seriously motivated to change your life. Enjoy the journey!
     
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  3. MonkeyHeaven

    MonkeyHeaven Fapstronaut

    Thanks, Marcel!
     
  4. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

    You have to go into hard mode. Hardcore monk no pmo nofap ninja for at the very least 18 months maybe longer. Learn to love cold showers, get tough with your addiction and stop watching the porno, not even a peek.
     
  5. MonkeyHeaven

    MonkeyHeaven Fapstronaut

    PM for me. Everyone's different, after all. I think abstaining completely from porn and masurbation of any kind, coupled with slowly introducing gentle, regular sex with my girlfriend, will make for a more effective reboot than denying myself any form of sexual relief for a year and a half. Thanks for the advice though.