How can NoFap help you work towards your dreams?

Getting married and starting a family has been my dream for years. Every day I wish for a wife to be my faithful companion and spend the rest of our lives together. Yet I am a 24 yr. old who has never had a girlfriend. For a long time I thought that getting married was simply about finding the right person. Not true! In order to be a good husband I must deal with my own problems and learn to be content so that I am not a burden to my wife.

Part of being the man I am meant to be involves developing a deeply intimate relationship with a woman. Yet to this point I have been utterly unsuccessful in that endeavor, and I believe PMO has been severely detrimental to that dream. Marriage is about giving all of yourself to another human being. Because I am so self-focused I have wasted a great deal of time throughout my life fapping, watching porn, which have served to make me acutely aware of my loneliness and destroy relationships with the women whose companionship I have most greatly desired.

So in preparation my marriage that I dream about, I am committing to becoming a selfless man now. Instead of PMO I will spend my time and energy developing meaningful relationships, developing good house cleaning habits so that someday my wife will want to have sex with me rather than nag about how dirty the bathroom is, and generally being more engaged in my surroundings.

Just joined NoFap today, but I am happy to report that I am already at 22 days and counting.

 

No, I haven't been working on meeting women. I want to, but I've been busy and tired. I'm almost done with my first year of teaching. School's over on Friday. Then I'll have time to meet women. But honestly the biggest problem is that I'm terribly awkward and my social skills are lacking.

 

Thanks for the advice. It's been real tough lately. I get raging boners several times a day and it takes all the fight I can muster to resist. But gratefully I have resisted and it's been great knowing that I have control over it no matter how tough it gets! Really hoping that this no fapping thing leads to healthier relationships with women...