Sex... (?)

The whole point of NoFap for many people is to re-train your brain to enjoy real sex. If you have a very serious porn addiction, it has been said to abstain from everything for awhile before you go out into the wild, but personally I see no problem with having sex AS LONG AS you can handle the chaser effect and stay clean from porn and masturbation.

 

The chaser effect is when, in the upcoming hours after you have sex, you get really horny and vulnerable to break down and PMO.

 

Hey bro,

As Thelonedanger mentioned, as long as you manage to handle the chaser effect it should be ok to have ocational sex with people.

For example. I usually have sex with my gf on the weekends. I realized already that on the following days (monday and tuesday) are very very difficult not to relapse.

So I'm going hard mode due to this point.

There is all a science explanation behind the Chaser effect, you can find more info in the website yourbrainonporn.com

All the best and keep going my friend.

 

For me, the easiest way to understand the chaser effect is, after sex, I feel sexy and want more, so I chase her. If she isn't available and willing, we all know how to get quick relief. In NoFap, the battle is on to avoid relapsing, not avoiding her If you can handle the chaser effect and have an intimate her, then O can be a good part of moving into conjugal person with person sex.
Here, we are trying to become better partners. We go without O along with P and M, because it helps us break the P and PMO addiction. We know that the P has to go, and we give up more to accomplish a freedom from porn. Some even go "MonkMode," giving up social media, music, movies, phones, TV, . . . , anything not real face to face real people connection. Most, obviously, will choose a softer form of reboot. If the form of reboot you first choose doesn't work for you, you can always select a different form and recommit.
What ever style you choose, we are all here to support and encourage each other. I hope the best for you in your reboot and in connecting.

 

Do u O when u have sex? And how does it affect ur streak...do u still feel the same or does it weaken u..low motivation etc..

 

For now I'm doing karezza with my gf (its a different kind of sex where we don't aim to orgasm during intercourse).

But felt very strong when I was doing traditional sex with my gf on the weekends that the following days were harder to focus in my tasks because my mind was often thinking about P.

 

Great post. Sums it up!

 

so before kerezza u was doin O with partner....how did that feel did it feel like u wer restarting reboot again? Was it affecting reboot

 

I felt it was affecting me due to the chaser effect. Take a look at this term and you will realize why

 

Apart from chaser effect did u see improvments such as higher motivation...confidence etc?

 

Not meaning to sound like a moralizer or something. But since I started NoFap my perception of my whole sexuality has changed, and may be you can profit from some insights I (and many others on this page) have made.

By considering having sex an "award", you are collecting the affection the girl gives you like a trophy. This is the same thing which hunters do with animal heads. You are basically using the girl. Of course there's nothing inherently wrong with that, if she wants to use you as well (and isn't expecting to enter a relationship with you). But in my view, having sex just for the sake of it is more detrimental than beneficial. It can quickly turn into a self-indulgent pleasure that is not so different from watching porn. In the worst case, you will masturbate not with your hand but with a human body.

Just saying. Do as you like. It's just that I've noticed how fucking much I've been programmed by our over-sexualized society throughout my life. It feels good to free yourself of these chains.