Wassup guys, im currently on day 6 and I've just had a question lingering in me for those who've went on long periods of time without pmo and a successful reboot and what it was like having sex after. And what i mean by that is, how long did you actually last in sex, because I feel like when i finally get to that point with a girl if im like 3 months in without ever orgasm, I would bust in like 10 seconds and it would feel embarrassing. This is a serious post and i want to know how you guys have experienced this.
I cannot speak from personal experience but I have read quite a lot on the matter so I'll just regurgitate what I know . I've seen 3 main groups for this but idk which one you would fit into. People with delayed ejaculation due to P. I've seen many people who previously couldn't O report that after a long stint of NoFap they can O easily with a partner within a 'normal' time frame. People with PIED. Most success stories from people with PIED seem to say that they can now get an erection and therefore O normally but it is often stated that it was a 'brief' experience. The time taken to O may increase with time and practice but I can't offer anything on that. People with premature ejaculation. This doesn't seem to be very common on NoFap which is strange as this is exactly what I have. From what I've read it doesn't get much better, but there is somewhat of a solution. I saw someone say that after NoFap they were able to O multiple times quite easily and so they could somewhat counteract this. As I said I have no personal experience but whenever I'm bored I read success stories and the like so I hope what I've said is representative of the majority. I feel similar to you atm in that I'd probably O in a minute but hopefully that changes with time. Just stay strong as P definitely won't make it better and will probably make it worse.
I It is often a brief experience for those with PIED?? That is depressing!! Would it be brief even after 3-4 years of Nofap.. I know it sounds far fetched coming from someone who can't go past a month, but still. Is PMO induced ED forever???
I really have no idea, but with a reboot of over a year it may change, I guess it would have to eventually. Just abstain for as long as you can and hope for the best, that combination can't really go wrong .
thanks for the insight. I suffer from PIED, as it was clearly prevalent when i was about to lose my virginity this past summer. I couldn't tell if I was scared to have sex, or that the fantasy of porn was the only thing that turned me on rather than experiencing the real thing - which confused tf out of me. I just hope after my reboot process that I will meet a girl and successfully have sex with a full erection, its just a matter of how long I will last is my concern haha
I can offer some insight on this: I have more than 2 decades of P use to the extremes: death grip, flat line, PIED and ED. I've been the most committed to breaking out of PMO since 11/29/16 as ever in my life because I hit a second flatline and understood what it was and how I got there. Being ANGRY and COMMITTED to fighting are the best assets for breaking out of the PMO cycle - easy to obtain them after a double flat line. After 3 weeks of hard mode, I began to see normal, though weak, arousal effects start to happen. Random morning wood, spontaneous weak arousal during the day. By 12/29, PIED had subsided and I could successfully penetrate for my wife's benefit, but not complete with my own O because of DE. I can tell you that many times on a vacation week, including 2x/day back to back, PIED was not present and I lasted like a stallion easily for her. When we were exhausted, I simply lost the erection. I was content that I met her needs, and resolved that I was paying my dues but moving toward the prize in the near future. Encouragement for others that PIED is not permanent from my experience. A month later, DE is improving but very slowly. I relapsed 2 times (+ chaser fail each time, 4 total) with PMO twice in the last two months - not a good thing, but does show ALL IS NOT LOST WITH A RELAPSE. Start from there and build again. YOU gain sexual healing in any streak. Sorry I can't speak to @SeekingLife's original question - no experience there.
So, for most of my life I had delayed ejaculation and it eventually progressed to ED. I haven't made it 90 days yet, but I've been working to quit, and lengthening my streaks, for about two years and managed 60 on my last streak. The changes were and are huge. I'll just kind of list them as I think of them: ED and delayed ejaculation are pretty much gone. Now, if my girlfriend and I are in bed, I'm hard before I even think about it, and I've had to learn to purposely delay my own orgasm for the first time in my life. I used to fantasize about porn during sex. These days, more and more, I'm just in the moment - no need to imagine anything. I'm just more aware of everything that's actually happening, and it's great. Sex has become more of an emotional experience. Like, it used to be mostly mechanical sort of thing, like "sex -> orgasm." I don't know exactly how to explain it now - there's just a lot more going on, emotionally, and I feel really connected to my girlfriend before, during, and after. I think I'm also just better in bed. Don't know for sure, but I think being more present and connected helps me respond to her needs more, and to feel more confident through the whole thing. I'm not saying I'm some sex-god or anything, but I'm better than I was. Orgasms are fucking crazy. They used to feel basically the same as when I masturbated, but with less control. Now it's like a whole different thing. The mechanics are the same, but it feels way better, and there's a lot more fluid in the tanks, so to speak. After orgasm, I swear the world actually seems more colorful for a while. And I feel this crazy, strong, genuine love cuddling with my girlfriend that I didn't know would happen. Also, PMO always leaves me with a kind of foggy mind afterwords. The longer I go without porn, the less fogginess I get after sex.
Great to know - thanks for sharing, seriously! My target is even more squarely aligned to drop PMO for good.
Hey man, I'm on my day 46, and though I haven't finished my reboot yet, I already have noticed the effects of abstinence from PMO... I used to have troubles getting to the O in an intercourse with my wife, and normally had to rely on some P or P-sub fantasy to get finished... Since I began my reboot (I'm on normal mode), I intimated with my wife twice... Both times I noticed far greater connection and "focus"; Os have improved, especially the second time I experienced a rather intense one... Duration might have been a bit shorter, probably due to the fact that I was having more fun... Nothing too short to spoil the fun of either of us though... So, so far the effects are on the bright side... Let's stay strong!
Seeking, you will probably last longer if you are more concerned about her, not about how good it will feel, not about how lucky you are, not about how much she will like you if you last, but about her. It is not easy when you are horny, pumped, and want release.
After my reboot I had sex once, it felt great, PIED gone but I lasted only about 5 min of VERY slow and nevertheless very passionate fucking. But before I used to last about 10 min with normal pace. HappyDaysAreHereAgain seems to have good advice. I was doing exactly what he said you should not be doing. I give it a try next time and concern more about her.
In PMO sex is all about me. In rape it is all about me. In the first times with a partner it is a lot about me. When it is about my partner it is better. When it's about us it is awesome. Nothing couples like sex.
I personally don't care much about delayed ejaculation since I'm single.. but ED is troublesome. Your posts give me much hope but it wouldn't work if I keep on relapsing. I wish I'd never relapse.. The mind is very clever and it makes me believe that *nothing* can ever cure the trio of ed/seminal leakage/Penis shrinkage caused by my horrific death grip
@xyzzy I am proof that you can recover - PM if a discussion would help your brain give up that foolishness. I can definitely sympathize and feel better knowing what I have gained from others.
