Currently, I am 246 day since intentional orgasm 119 days since looking at porn 117 days since looking at any erotic material Still in major flatline. I messed myself up with P-subs and edging for 8 months. I really think this is worse than just a quick "O". Anywhoooo. I've cruising along quite nicely. I even have a counter for fantasizing. If I go a whole week without engaging in fantasy to the point of erection, I treat myself to an MP3 album download. But, I have discovered that even watching an attractive singer or actress can escalate. I was watching one of my favourite female Indie singers from the 1990s and early 2000s. She never dressed provocatively. Just very nice normal clothes. Dressed more like Eddie Vedder in the late 90s actually. She gets described as "cute, adorable, beautiful, angel like". On youtube videos, guys say they would like to marry her ... as opposed to other singers where the comments would be "tap that". She is enchanting .... not "sexy". But, after watching a bunch of her old youtube videos, I did find that my urges were increasing, and I was starting to fantasize more. So I really see the value in monk mode. No Ogling women ! Even just looking at pretty girls seems to wake up that part of the brain.
Agreed! I added Fantisizing ( also looking at women ) to my 'regime' of abstinence. It in deed triggers some dopamine. I don't know about you but I'm reacting very strongly to these dopamine signals, even with quite averagely pretty girls.
Oh man this is the hardest part of rebooting. Seeing the gorgeous (and with my crazy brain, even the not so gorgeous) women everywhere.