Hit my breaking point!

Pray to what, man? Believe in yourself and do this right this time.

 

Let's understand what prayers are for:

“The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.”
― Søren Kierkegaard

You are working to change your nature.

Use NoFap as an application of ancient and proven principles:

James 5:16 New International Version (NIV)
"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective."

Proverbs 15:22 New King James Version (NKJV)
Without counsel, plans go awry,
But in the multitude of counselors they are established.

Share with others here and be encouraged by believers and non-believers who have fallen victim to the evils of porn, but who are all involved in finding liberty and restoring their dignity.

Finally, Know that you always have another option:
1 Corinthians 10:13 New International Version (NIV)
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

Be Strong My Friend.

 

You have hit rock bottom.

For some guys, that must happen in order for them to change.

Now, you can't doubt the detrimental effects that porn will have in your life.

You are living them now.

When at the bottom, there is no direction to go, but UP.

By making this post, you are already pointing yourself upward.

You have also come to the realization that we can't do this alone.

If it were not for the daily support I receive and give on NoFap, I would not be recovering.

Stay active here, and I guarantee you will soon see great improvement in your life.

 

Cadillac, I don't know if you have made the connection between "a long absence from site" and "relapse." I think it is important to reboot with support. When we go it alone, we are more likely to realize that no one is watching. I think it would be even better to have somebody, flesh and blood with a face, working with us. I also think it is a good idea to see how others are fighting and encourage them.
I heard a new idea today.
Tell a friend that you have realized that you have a problem with porn and and masturbation and that you want to stop. Tell them that you will give them $20 (or more) if you relapse in the next month (or 90 days or more) and ask them to help see you to the end. They can check on you daily, or weekly, and you can report to them whenever. When you reach your goal, you celebrate your victory together. You do need a friend that cares more for you than they want $20.

 

I like Kierkegaard, and have read some of his work. I like his struggles and writings on a number of topics, but I don't think he has the last word on prayer. I do think it helps us, but I have also seen prayers answered beyond my feelings and being. That means I pray for others, even if they are named for a fancy car, and hope to see or hear about good results in them, not just hope I feel better because I did something good. I don't understand the mechanics of it; it is not mechanical, but it is often amazing.
I like the James and Proverbs passages. Confession and collaboration are important. I Cor. 10:13 has helped me so many times. I wish I had always taken the escape provided, but sometimes I've found the temptation attractive and gone for it. I am afraid that my temptation problem might be best explained by Kierkegaard and by James 1:14-15 "But one is tempted by one's own desire, being lured and enticed by it; then, when that desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin, and that sin, when it is fully grown, gives birth to death." (NRSV)

 

@HappyDaysAreHereAgain Thanks so much for adding to this discussion.
I will agree that no writer has ever captured in totality the awesome nature of God's love, grace and mercy.
My aim in emphasizing this particular aspect of the wonderful gift of prayer is to combat the sometimes prevailing concept that " If I just pray about this then God will remove this from my life".

The encouragements of Phil 2:12 - "Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed--not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence--continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling,",
combine with the continued resolve of 1 Peter 1:13 - "Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ", lead us to accept that this is going to be a challenging work on our part.

And while I too have been the initiator and recipient of the power and grace of intercessory prayer, I am saddened here at NoFap with high incidence of relapse and constant re(rebooting). I believe that the battle for control of what is between our legs is fought and won instead between our ears and in our hearts. We must arm ourselves with knowledge and faith.

Be Strong My friends.

 

If I didn't know any better id say all these feelings came AFTER the first relapse? A word of advice..I've been lurking nofap for about a year with no acct.

Stay and visit on the site and achieve your goals but when there's doubt check back in and be accountable. Just don't stay on the site all day or visit more than a few times a day unless the urges are there. Good luck