I can totally relate to what you are saying here. I'd share a similar experience. I have a beautiful wife, a nice kid, a good career, have travelled the world, boxed in a pro gym etc etc. Its like though when somebody says 'I have 3 degrees, I am a millionaire blah, blah, blah'. I think life is about reaching our own full potential whatever that may be to us, as individuals. Being just like you in my habits I feel I am letting myself down and not allowing myself to totally live my life to its maximum potential. I have just turned 40 now and have been like this apart for two gaps of 9 months when I was 17 and 21 (I had the best results then). I hope I can do this once and for all. At least by being accountable here I can monitor my progress. If anyone has any advice for me of how I can use this nofap tool to its maximum I'd appreciate that.
Really inspirational! If you aren't keep a journal and send me the link to it. I will read it everyday when I'm logged in. Just log in every day, keep your journal, read some success stories and message me or other people. Since we have similair interests, we can chat about these things and the effect of nofap on them.
I know what those days are like. I've had a lot of "shitty" days. There is one thing in which we can succeed, no matter how bad the days: NoFap. "Today was crap, but at least I didn't fap." See, it rhymes. I'm a poet. Cheers!
Hi Yashar, This is the link to my journal. Thank you- https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/journal-day-1.81903/
Yeah, I was a little bit frustrated yesterday but now I feel really good. I actually don't feel any urges at the time but I'm staying focused. I'm becoming free and it feels great. Did a lot of work today. Looking forward to tomorrow.
Hi, I hope your having a good day. First of all I wanted you to know I'm there for you and I completely understand what your going through. So I'm gonna help you with your struggle. The problem you have is you keep telling yourself you can't do it. I'm currently on day 63 and what's kept me going is my mindset mostly. So listen carefully keep telling yourself you're never going back to your old habits, you've gotta believe it and you've gotta avoid sexual thought at all costs, and most important of all remember to avoid TRIGGERS!!! WISH YOU GOOD LUCK BRO!!!! YOU CAN DO IT, REMEMBER BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!!!!
Thank you. I realized that I can and I WILL do it. I have strengthened my belief and nofap really helped me with it.
Day 12: Day 12 was a good day. Really did a lot of work. Two trainings. I felt great. Today I wanted to do the same. I got up in the morning but decided to go to sleep again. Kinda regret it and I felt bad but I learned that beating yourself up makes things worse. Today is going to be a good day. A good friend of mine invited me to a concert. I don't drink or do any kind of drugs but I like the musicians that are playing. It's going to be a great night. Tomorrow I will have to get the work in again.
Sleep is essential. It is necessary for mental functioning, and when we are rested, we will have more strength against PMO. The urges and temptations are strongest for me when I'm tired and too apathetic to do anything worthwhile. So, take your rest. I try to be very disciplined in my daily routine, perhaps too much so. I do wake up early in the morning because the morning is my best time of day. I am a morning person. I want to have the morning and not waste it. Sometimes, however, I do sleep later than usual, and I take naps in the afternoon. My mind gets foggy, and I can't think when I am tired. Then, nothing gets done. I also feel guilty when I sleep more because I think I should have spent that sleep time doing something. That extra sleep, however, is often necessary if I am going to be able to do anything. After a nap, I am reinvigorated and able to think of things and want to do things which I couldn't have before it. There should be no guilt from sleep, then. Getting enough sleep is actually part of becoming more productive.
I am trying to go to sleep earlier lately. Didn't work out so well but I'll keep trying. I want to build a lifestyle and I'm on a good way I think. Feeling pretty alone but I think that's part of it. I can say I'm happy to be me and I think that's the most important thing.
I am alone too most of the time, and I struggle with the same issues. Being "happy to be me" is essential. A positive self-feeling will make you content while alone. I've been off from school over these past few days, and imagining ways of improving myself, especially by not looking at porn and masturbating, has gotten me through them. Generally, it is good for me to be by myself, and only at times do I feel lonely. NoFap connects me with other people, and being active on this site, I don't feel alone. My sleep patterns are messed up too. This is not so much a problem of discipline, as it is the need to schedule life and be better organized. Ideally, my bedtime should be 9:00PM. To make that, I simply need to plan out my days so that I have everything done well before that time. Too often, I am awake past 10:00 doing this and that. The time I spend on some things must be cut, and other things must be started sooner. This will be a lifestyle that will take time to develop. Keep at it!
Day 13 and 14 Woke up a little late since I was up until 4 o'clock. Ate a lot of food, didn't do everything I wanted. Some stronger urges hit me but I was able to calm myself down. Didn't do a lot of things I wanted to do today but that just motivates me to do more tomorrow! I'm going to sleep know because I am tired as fuck. I'm happy to write things into this forum tomorrow again.
It's awesome to see that someone is struggling with the same things. We can do this! Thank you, man. You've really helped me with your posts. Means a lot.
Day 15 and 16 Yesterday I trained a little bit but didn't much else. Urges where strong and I thought about doing it again but I didn't. Today I was frustrated. First I didn't get up when I wanted to (again) and then in my training in the afternoon I sparred with a friend of mine who is a southpaw. He has trained for many years and he just lit me up. I sparred with him before and didn't have so much trouble but this time he just played with me. I kinda got scared. What I liked was my endurance, he actually had to say "Stop it, I need some time to rest!" And he was breathing heavy. My stamina was always one of my strongest weapons. I also have a strong chin and I can take hard punches (he even kicked me in the head and it didn't do anything to me). I think I just have to get a bit braver. As I said I sparred him before and I was able to keep it even. I was REALLY horny in the morning and I think I was the closest to relapsing since I started but I stayed strong. Hell yeah! My motivation is stronger than ever before. I'm thinking about starting a Blog to motivate other people. To all people out there reading this: Stay strong - It's more than worth it!
Great! The most important thing here is that you "wanted to," but did not. For those of us who are uninitiated, what is it to "spar." (I can picture this, but I'm not sure what is this sport.) A blog to motivate other people sounds like a good idea. When we help and motivate others, we are also helping and motivating ourselves. That is a great return on our efforts. Glad to know you're doing well.
Fair play for not relapsing. I would say if you are like me that staying away from PMO enhances your athletic performance. Regarding sparring. I boxed in a gym and I remember watching this guy who was a world champion sparring. Copying him improved my performance. Flat footed staying in the pocket and prepared to take a few to give a few. Minimal energy loss and small head movement. The boxers name was Tony Oakey. I'll follow your journal ;-)
It's fighting but not going 100% so you don't hurt your sparring partner. Well, sometimes I just think to myself: I'm jobless, I'm broke. What can I tell ANYBODY? I know it's a stupid thought but life's kinda hard right now and I sometimes just think that I'm not enough.
Did you have some fights? I looked him up. He was WBU light heavyweight champion, right? Must've been great having him in the gym.