Am I Wrong ?

Why do you care about what strangers on a random forum think? This concerns you and your sister(s), not us. So don't worry about what WE think about your personal dynamic. Why? We don't know shit. For all you future posters: No. You don't know shit. Neither do I. Not when it comes to OP's life and situation. Only HE knows. Personally, I would say you're in the right, but again, don't worry about what I say. What does Freeee's heart and mind say? His soul say? THAT will determine rightness or wrongness. Not us.

 

I have a similar dynamic with my adoptive siblings. Like you, they treat me like I'm some kind of closet freak Frakenstein, especially when they're around their friends. Even my adoptive guardian did it at one point when a sibling had one of her trollop friends over. I was told to go to my room because "[sibling] doesn't want her friend to see you". Of course, she denies saying this when I call her out for it, especially around other people. The 'family' I'm talking about is one of narcissists, but that's another topic.

To answer you: I'd say you, at least, distance yourself from her. However, she might be trying to make up for her treatment of you in past years and forge some kind of healthy relationship. Maybe see what her motive is? Obviously, if it's self-serving or disingenuous, next her.

 

Listen to your heart my friend. Be brave and be honest to yourself. Talk to her and see what her reaction might be. You have to confront your problems instead of escaping from them. Believe in yourself and everything will be alright. I think your sister is a good person in her heart but she expresses it in a weird way (my opinion). Make a test and try to talk with her about all your fears and feelings. If you can do 78 days without pmo you can also do this. And yup NoFap makes miracles. And always remember you're not alone.

 

I think you should talk to her.

People mature. Maybe she regrets treating you badly. Maybe she never understood how she made you feel. A lot of teenagers are caught up in their own world, and their priorities change after they become adults.

Ultimately, there is no right or wrong in this situation. You aren't obligated to have a close relationship with her. But ten years from now, you might regret pushing her away.

 

You're holding yourself and that person prisoner when you don't forgive. How can God forgive you if you can't forgive others? Matt. 6:15
But at the same time.. Let go of anything that's toxic in your life. Friendships, relationships, family members, negativity, food, anything that drains you. And always trust your instincts. Btw good job on that streak bruh

 

We only get so many people in our lives who will make an effort to connect. I totally get where you're coming from, and it can be really painful to feel like someone who we naturally think should have cared didn't. But I really think the high road is to be kind and accept her efforts to be good, even though she wasn't that way before. I think some day we'll all look back and realize that every person that tried to be kind to us is priceless, even if they're awkward or inconsistent at it. I don't think it will hurt you to be gracious. It might be really helpful.

 

I have a similar dynamic with my adoptive siblings. Like you, they treat me like I'm some kind of closet freak Frakenstein, especially when they're around their friends. Even my adoptive guardian did it at one point when a sibling had one of her trollop friends over. I was told to go to my room because "[sibling] doesn't want her friend to see you". Of course, she denies saying this when I call her out for it, especially around other people. The 'family' I'm talking about is one of narcissists, but that's another topic.

To answer you: I'd say you, at least, distance yourself from her. However, she might be trying to make up for her treatment of you in past years and forge some kind of healthy relationship. Maybe see what her motive is? Obviously, if it's self-serving or disingenuous, next her.