I dont understand! With sex too??

I've had that happen before a few times during a previous reboot. I think it is just part of the process--according to stuff I've read, your brain is rewiring itself during this reboot phase. I think it happens b/c while we are physically able to have sex, mentally we are not ready. I would try this: keep up the no-PMO and take the O during sex. If you reference the YBOP website, a lot of guys had success when they took the orgasm out of sex while rebooting. They still had intimacy, they just didn't take it climax. This is supposed to help the brain reboot faster and more thoroughly. The brain is a quirky but incredibly resilient system--give it time. put the focus on your girl and take this time to refine and master your tongue technique, your finger work, etc.

I did this during a previous reboot and in addition to making my wife enjoy some serious pleasure, I think the sensory input helps with rebooting. We don't get the smell and the tactile feel of sex when we PMO so it's what our brains are naturally wired for.

Hang in there.

 

Glad it helps. Remember--rebooting is about intimacy and connecting with your partner. Focus on that rather than the sex/O.

You got this.

 

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It's because you Release all those hormones. It's nothing to worry about

 

It also has alot to do Who you have sex with.. Ever hear the term, dirty whore, or a skank? or that a virgin is pure as white snow.. The energy of the person affects you. When you have sex there is an energy exchange between the two peopel and you are giving some of your life force to her, and you getting some of her's. Thats why you dont want to sleep with a girl who gets around, because you are getting some of the energy in you of every guy she has been with.. Or say you dont smoke and get with a girl who smokes... her toxic polluted energy will get all inside you and pullute you and fog you out.. Thats why everyone all through history wants a virgin. not because she has a tighter box, but because she is Cleaner.. and hopefully Healthier.. So date clean healthy girls who exercise, eat well, and who are positive and up lifting and i bet you will have a better experince..

 

Easy tiger. Just b/c your girl likes sex and is kinky doesn't mean anything is wrong with her. Be glad she's not self conscious or repressed. Though Fork is getting a little hippie-metaphysical, there is an energy that happens during sex. Being able to be free with it, be kinky, explore desire, that's a good thing that can increase that positive energy.

 

Don't lose a good woman because of preconceived ideas about sex and intimacy. If you're struggling after O, let her know your struggles and ask her - as a favour - to try Karezza with you for a 90 day hard mode period. I don't know what's involved in 'kinky' (and I don't necessarily want to know), so I will just say enjoying sex with someone she cares about does not make a girl slutty. It makes her a (normal) great catch. Give her the space to enjoy sex without judgment, or else you will lose her, one way or another. Just ask for help from her for 90 days. I'm not in hard mode, but it sounds like it might be what you need for the next 90 days.

 

Ok, I see. That statement is far more telling than the other stuff you mention. However, there is a difference between feeling like doing something and doing it. For example, I have felt like PMOing at times on my journey, but I know it's terribly unhealthy for me so I don't do it. So the first thing is to talk to her and see what a statement like that means in terms of her fidelity. If she doesn't ever intend on acting on it, well, take the plunge. There's emotional risk in every emotional investment. If she thinks she might - well that wouldn't necessarily mean that a relationship has to end. More people than you might think have open relationships - but you need to be self-actualizing enough for it not to matter. What would I think about a girl who did that? I wouldn't think any less of her. Could I be with her - that's a more complicated question, and less relevant. Can you be with her? That's the real question. Search yourself for the answer, but try to do away with any preconceptions. Relationship counseling may be a good idea.
Best wishes in your journey
MH

 

Look up karezza.

 

With karezza you just hold still, or at least move very slowly and subtly, that's how it's easy to not O. There's also Qi Gong to help move the sexual energy up your spine, this might be a good breathing exercise for you: http://www.herballove.com/solutions/harmonic-qi-gong