So depressed!!!

Get an AP. There's so many supportive people on here who help and lean on each other

 

Hi Needalight, welcome to NoFap. Sorry to hear you are so down. I recommend reading through our Porn Addiction article to learn what is going on in your brain, and our Rebooting article, to learn how to fix it. Then you might want to head over to the Women in Reboot section, where there are women like you who are struggling with the same thing. They won't be able to fix your problem, but at least you will know you are not alone.

Porn addiction is obstinate, and it can take a lot of discipline to free yourself from it. If you haven't already, I would suggest building up your discipline through daily activities such as cold showers, exercise, and intermittent fasting. These practices will help you to be able to override momentary urges or sensations. Practicing meditation daily will also help you learn how to let urges pass (and the sexual thoughts that accompany them) pass through your brain without having to act on them.

 

Literally each moment you abstain you are creating new strength in your thinking. All the terrible feelings and cravings are the hangover from binging on PMO. When you start to feel urges, try to think about the terrible feelings that will be created afterward - the guilt, shame, dissatisfaction, helplessness, disgust, etc... If you abstain, that feelings begin to dissolve and disappear. I was once caught in the same cycle you are in right now - we all were! Wanting so bad to quit but feeling so helpless to stop. Today is Day 75 for me and each day I get better and it gets easier. I no longer have anxiety and endless shame.

For now, take it moment to moment. Hit the panic button on the home page when you start to feel you're slipping toward relapse. You have the support of all of us. Learn when you fail and the failing will stop. I promise you.

 

7years too. There will not be an 8th

 

Hey buddy, newbie fapstronaut here. I have a tip I can share with you as I have been battling depression and anxiety for the last year and I have been getting really good results. I am here now on noFap for support and self-improvement to further my goals in quitting bad addictions I have.

One tip I would like to share is don't be hard on yourself. Although it is very hard at times, try not to feel shame and guilt. Other people on here can give you all the mental support and pep-talks that you need and want but you gotta believe that you, yourself is worth it. Talk to yourself, and write to yourself of all the advices and mental support that you would like. Be your best friend.

Stop blaming yourself (or others or society or the world or LIFE) for all the problems that you are facing. When you have genuinely let go of that blame, guilt, and shame you will be able to love your own soul for what it really is. When you can do that, you will find the inner strength to take actual responsibility, accountability, and motivation to treat yourself better, take better care of yourself, and make better conscious decisions for the present and future.

Everybody is different and you are unique. Everybody can live a truly free life, free from judgment of others but more importantly, free from judgment of ourselves. You are worth it, you can do it.

Find the inner strength.

On the days and times that it is hard for you to believe in yourself, come back and write here again, help others who are struggling. You will be able to gain that inner strength again by feeling that people care about you, and by feeling you have the strength to help others.

 

Something that has helped me to reach day 38 is keeping away from Facebook with all the sex photos and videos and generally watching films. Wen ever I feel the urge to watch movies I often instead watch the big bang theory and before I know it I no longer get the urge to PMO. So my advise is wen u get the urge to PMO, watch comedy and laugh away the urge