I'm on day six and have not watched porn. I am tempted to edge and to masturbate to porn but have resisted after reading about people regretting their relapses. I just want to be able to get erections for normal sexual situations or at the view of a naked woman. It takes a lot now to get me hard because of the years of daily masturbation. I wake up and want to get the feeling of pleasuring myself, but I know I can't. But sometimes I think of quitting because of the fear that doing this will not solve the problem. Will me waiting 90 days without porn really fix the issue? I don't know. Will I feel better? What is the feeling like when I finally get to ejaculate. When should I do this. Should I finallly ejaculate to fapping or from a sexual experience with a woman (paid or not paid).
Look, if you feel like giving up, remember why you started in the first place. You have six days already, which is really good. Relapse and you'll have to start over. It's not worth it. Urges and cravings are natural, we all get them, but with time we get better control over them. Try the 90 days experiment and take it one day at a time. No one can know for sure when you are ready. That is entirely up to you. For me, I am only looking to give up PMO. I still see my girlfriend on a regular basis, we kiss and do regular couples stuff, but we haven't made love yet. If it happens, I will not say no. Also, if you're thinking about paying for a prostitute, think again. It's much better to connect with someone emotionally and then focus on the naughty things.
I reached day 7 but in bed i started to edge a little. I usually M with a pillow. Thanks for the words of advice. I'm not sure how long I can keep this up. but I want to cure my PIED when I am with a woman, paid or not paid. But yeah, maybe paying for a sex worker is not a good idea because there is no emotional connection. But there is no emotional connection with porn either. The fact that I get ED with a naked woman is not good.
The first week for me was the most difficult. Those first days seemed to drag forever. Never do I want to go through those first 6 again. So, you should treasure the week you have behind you. I see days as investments I don't want to lose in PMO. With each day we have more to lose in relapse. Edging as you did is understandable at the beginning, but you didn't fully PMO. Take that as early progress. I myself am not going to worry about what to do about sex until after my 98 day reboot is complete on Jan 1. I would recommend you do the same. Your sexual decisions will be your own, and you first need to recover and heal with the rest of us.
good advice. i was tempted to go to this area in Japan to test my ED. Forums about those areas say that they were able to get hard instantly but they don't have PIED like I do. I am tempted to edge, but I'm approaching day 7. I still touch my penis and try to imagine recent girls I like to see if it gets hard. And when it does it lasts briefly. I'm not sure it's healing and I'm not sure if I'm going to heal in 90 days at this point. This is partially a reason that I want to just fap again. But I think fapping will make me feel guilty again and having to start over will be bad. I haven't ejaculated and most importantly, I haven't watched porn in over six days, about to be seven, for the first time in years, I think. I am not sure i'm healing though. I have gone clubbing recently but haven't approached women. I'm a little depressed I think. This may be various reasons. It may be because it's colder now, that I dont have a relationship, that I'm not fapping. I don't know what feelings I have that is unique to my situation. I just want to heal, and I also want to be in a sexual relationship, a healthy one that isn't reliant on porn.
I relapsed just before day 7. went to a site on where people pay for the real thing and they had preview videos for non-nude. but a tease. i guess it's better than porn. but i regret it my mistake was thinking i could edge.. which failed because i ended up ejaculating. very thick healthy semen after holding off for a week. now i have to start over
@Silverthorn, when we edge to porn, how and when will be able to stop? at what point is it satisfactory to stop. how many more pics or videos before we think it is enough for the day? will natural tiredness or sleep make us stop? so there can be only one outcome.
It wasn't really porn I was fapping to. It was clothed women that teased nudity, but a poster is right that if you edge, you will most likely O. Not worth it. Since i ejaculated, I went to a soapland in Japan and tried 50 minute session. Even with her mouth, I still got limp most of the time. They said 29, but she was in her 40s but still attractive. I felt satisfied, but not satisfied that I was still PIED most of the time. I couldn't get it up when I saw her naked. It can't stay rock hard. I want that feeling back where I will be able to enjoy sex for a long prolong period of time. I think I have to start over again. Is 90 days the magic number? Maybe I can pay for another one in ninety days to test. Thoughts?
Stop pay stop paying for whores man! Even if you want the real thing with a women with unstable issues in her head " child abuse" "low self. Esteem" "drugs" its not the right route. Go outside talk to women it gets so much easier! Rejection aint too bad its not as bad as you think. Women reject you sometimes even if they like you!
Hi bro Silverthorn, I can understand your feelings as I am also suffering from PIED. I had my doubts that doing no PMO can cure me. But after reading a lot of success stories from others who are suffering from PIED, I am convinced that I will get better. My longest streak is only 9 days. So I'm trying really hard. Don't lose hope bro, things will get better. Stay positive and be strong. We can do this!
