Anyone else drawn into Youtube as a P Sub? Over the years I've gotten very drawn into this site. Accidental nudity & scantily clad women in reality situations is a huge turn on for me. And Youtube is a goldmine for this kind of thing, because there's an endless supply of video of just about any subject matter you could imagine. For me it's mostly athletics (fit women), and the seemingly strange, but prevalent genre of "girl hood fights". The trap I fall into is that I can spend hours compulsively searching, and downloading these vids. The real reward for me is more from finding a gold nugget, than fapping to it. The biggest problems with this are: 1. Once I start watching, I fall into a compulsive cycle, where I can't stop. I keep saying "Just one more video". I often worry about missing a great find, and this drives me back. 2. Doing this puts me into a long term state of low-level arousal. And I think this is very damaging to proper libido & erectile function.
For me, it's an even more compulsive habit than regular porn and i try to avoid it at all costs. Like you said it happens with reality situations the most and finding a "good" video feels so new and exciting that it spikes the dopamine in your brain like crazy. It's more about the searching and finding than the watching or fapping...
YouTube is my Achilles heel sometimes. It doesn't help with all these trending videos in the recommended feed only trending because they are either music videos about sex or click bait videos with a sexual thumbnail.
Logging out of youtube is a must, if you ever have to use it. This way you don't get harassed by sexy thumbnails even if that one time last year you've looked a couple of [insert highly triggering material here] videos. The permanent low-state of arousal you speak of sounds sort of familiar, but I'm not quite sure. Do you feel is presence even when you're unable to use Youtube for an extended period of time? Also, when you say it's damaging for your libido and erectile function, I fail to understand how a low-level of arousal can replace desires and the occasional erection, other than maybe being not-so-low-level? (Not being sarcastic, just trying to understand further)
Unfortunately YouTube will recommend videos even if you are logged out because it caches data and also holds its own search and watch history even if you are logged out (crazy huh). Best method is to delete browser cookies and history after every use, that way youtube will be like the first time visiting it.
Geez I didn't know that. Makes sense for their business tho... So configuring your browser to refuse cookies from youtube should help, i guess?
Yeah, most of my triggers involve sites like YouTube. The videos you speak of I personally call a relapse because I too addictively my watch them.
youtube is my goto for psubs.. It sucks because the website really has a ton of useful content and I really dont want to just stop going to youtube completely you know?
Used to have an issue with it too. That is mainly because YouTube offers the same novelty porn can offer. Nowadays I don't have that much problems with it, mainly because of several things: 1. Cleaned my cache, history and cookies entirely. 2. Used the function "Not interested" for videos in my suggestions (Homepage) that usually contains sexy thumbsnail/backgrounds. Most of these videos with the given background are EDM remixes etc. If you like that music (I don't really, so it wasnt an issue for me) try Spotify for tracks (the playlist 'Discover weekly' offers you new music based the previous songs you played!) or SoundCloud for mixes. 3. Videos that need a sexy thumbnail to draw you are usually shit videos. Try to get your YouTube standards up a bit (this sounds really exaggerated, but you get what I mean). I usually use YouTube for educational videos on philosophy, psychology etc. or your standard comic videos. (SNL, Daily Show etc)
I think another pitfall is that it's so easy to convince myself that it is relatively harmless (it's not porn), and thus easier to justify a quick peak, which turns into an hour.
Youtube ruins my streak. I end up watching booty shaking video and its over lol. I stay away from anything video based.
I watched youtube as a Psub for years. I still watch youtube now, but I find that since my mindset has changed I am not drawn into watching a random sexual video or something related.
wtf LOLOLOLOL. i don't get turn on by that thing . i agree staying away from media is a good idea, images, videos. i always text-based stuffs. there are many addons which can block youtube. the thing is that youtube has both shit and few good videos, and plenty of distractions. sometimes i still have to access youtube, but i hate recommendations feature. so i block all images from youtube, but the addon actually blocks all images from all sites. anw is youtube psub? yep, no doubt
Basically you find "P subs" almost everywhere. That's why it is so important that you address the underlying roots of the addiction. There is a void in your soul: You are missing something, and you know that you want to do something against it (or for it). But you either don't find what exactly you need to do, or you know, and something else is holding you back. And so you stay in the void and you fill it up with lusting and wasting time. Therefore it is important to change your routine and go out and do various activity. The more you do, and the more different you do, the more you are feeding your brain with ideas and possibilities, and then you can select from them. In the moment, you have not much to select - only P.
^ It's easy to fall into that trap, because many perfs have vids on Youtube, none really that are really porn but more like one which was early in her career where she had a part in a music video, also interviews at conventions, etc. Watching those can lure you back to the other sites and WHAM you're back to the PMO cycle. My advice, DO NOT GO THERE!!! I know it's hard for younger guys whose lives are connected to social media, but for an older guy like me I just saw it as "an occasion to sin" (Boy, there's an oldie), and dropped all social media. My life has been better for it. These people don't give a shit about you, why should you give a shit about them?
For me the psub has to be video based, so if its just an instagram picture or maybe a 10 sec clip, it will not do. Youtube is a destructive psub, because there is so much content, if you search hard enough you will find what you need sadly.
Youtube is P-subs to me. If you spend a lot of time to find content, its almost like browsing a porn site, as the search element is there. There is ASMR, sex binaurals, sports, sex ed/sex tricks vids, etc....lots of blogging females with cleavage ,etc...
ew web filters add-on(block youtube); negative screen(invert colours ); block images add-on(remove some distractions); text-based web browsers(omg i love these); disable youtube from setting on phone.
For a good period I replaced porn with YouTube p subs, for me that was asmr videos of girls, and twerking videos. I had to treat YouTube just like I did with porn