Hi all, Ever since I started nofap, 2-3 days into it, going to bars and anticipating the presence of hot women there gives me anxiety to an unbearable point. I would literally get so many butterflies in my stomach and feel so HORNY at the thought of grinding with a girl. I am unable to even speak to girls because at any point I will NEED to abrubtly disengage from the conversation for the feeling of going to vomit from the nausea (sometimes while being extremely horny, other times its a purely anxiety problem I feel). I had been going out 4-5 days a week for a month straight and it hasn't been getting any better (peer pressure since all my roommates and friends go out (im in college) + wanting to get better at picking up girls). I relapsed recently and indulged in porn again and when I go out this need for sex goes away and I feel like it's much more easy talking to girls, and I also find myself having A LOT more fun on average. What is happening? Should I quit nofap? Is this problem deeper than porn, since I also have had a lot of dating anxiety AND puking (i can't eat on dates) even when I wasn't familiar with Nofap? Also, is it possible that being around extremely attractive girls is slowing/stopping my rebooting progress? Should I abstain from all interactions with hot girls or at least not go out to bars loaded with hot girls? All help HIGHLY appreciated. Edit: forgot to mention some background: 21 year old, been masturbating to porn 2 times on average since I was 11-12.
I would withdraw from the bar setting. It is full of triggers around you. You should try to find more quiet and serene places. I would feel a similar type of anxiety, because we conditioned ourselves to look at girls like we watched porn. Plus, seeing "hot girls" will be associated with porn and may cause you to relapse. Just tell your buddies that you need some time for yourself. You know the answer and you know your own triggers. Stay clean and good luck.
