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Need Help Badly. Porn is ruining my life

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by dirtymoneymike, Jul 21, 2016.

  1. dirtymoneymike

    dirtymoneymike Fapstronaut

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    I'm sure my story is similar to some people on here but I'm a 27 year old male. I didn't start masturbating until I was 15. I started off masturbating to thoughts in my head, then pictures of girls, then regular porn, and now I've been masturbating to transgendered person porn. It's gone to the point where I've actually met up with two transgendered people, but was disgusted when seeing them in person. I really don't understand how I got to this point, because I'm straight and only attracted to women in real life. Porn has really messed up my life since I was a teen. I also have porn-induced ed. I've never been able to ejaculate from a blowjob and whenever I have sex, I've never really been able to ejaculate as well, and I'm not as hard as I am when watching porn, especially with a condom on. It's to the point where I don't want to have sex anymore because of displeasing and disappointing the girl. I remember one of my exes dumping me because I wasn't able to stay fully hard and she felt I didn't like her. I've been trying to stop masturbating since 2012 and been failing miserably. The longest I've went was 17 days. I heard about this site on a radio show and decided to join in order to change my life. I want to get married one day and please with wife. Hopefully it works out for me.
     
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  2. MsPants

    MsPants Guest

    You are in the right place on here. Read about the affects of porn addiction and watch Gary Wilson the great porn experiment (Ted talks video on yourbrainonporn.com). This will help you understand how your addiction has led you to transgendered person content when you are actually attracted to women. You get dopamine hits every time you watch something new. This addiction seeks novelty and when regular sex does not fill that dopamine rush, you seek out novel things. You have become desensitized to sex, and soft core videos, so your brain needed more and more novel things to reach that high. Your ED and delayed ejaculation will disappear when you go hard mode and quit using anyghing fake to get off. It will get better and your brain will repair itself, which will repair your body as well when you quit for a while.

    Keep focus on needing to get better and remember the turmoil that porn has caused you while you are doing reboot. It will get better, stay dedicated. Good luck
     
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  3. Gary explains: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/why-did-my-porn-use-escalate

    Or watch Noah:
     
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  4. dirtymoneymike

    dirtymoneymike Fapstronaut

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    Thanks man I appreciate the advice
     
  5. iceman40

    iceman40 Fapstronaut

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    you are definitely in the right place. Make a list of your life with porn. See yourself when you're 30 years old, all the way to 70 years old. Feel how you would feel if you still using porn at 70 years old. See how much pain is around you. And vision that life for at least 20 min.

    Now envision a life of porn free. See yourself getting married to an amazing woman and having children. Being the most amazing dad in the world. See what your house would be filled with during the holidays and birthday parties and so on. Spend some time on this part.

    Now which route you want to take? And are you willing to pay the price of not watching porn anymore? The decision is totally up to you and we are here to help each other on the site.
     
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  6. dirtymoneymike

    dirtymoneymike Fapstronaut

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    You're definitely right. Right now I'm on day 4. This site is definitely a help. I really appreciate the advice.
     
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