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9 days, the longest I've gone PMO free for years! But don't feel different...(yet.?)

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by jw88, Apr 27, 2014.

  1. Apr 27, 2014 #1
    jw88

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    I've now gone 9 days with no masturbation or porn. I'm not finding it hard ''yet''.. and I've just tried my best to relax about it. I think taking it seriously, makes it harder. I just have dedicated myself to not doing it, and get on with other things.

    The thing is, I haven't really felt much desire at all recently as it is. It might be stress related, but I hope that a bit later down the line I notice some difference.. the only difference I've noticed so far is that I have more energy.
     
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  2. Apr 28, 2014 #2
    MelancholyWeightlifter

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    I bet your flatlining. But maybe not. Stress can actually decrease libido. Unfortunately though most of us used PMO as a stress release. Is the stress really severe?
     
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  3. Apr 28, 2014 #3
    JJnofap

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    When I very first quit PMO and worked on nofap I had a little flatline right away after a week and it sounds like you could be in a similar situation.

    Really good point though, taking nofap tooo seriously and counting down days is only going to make it harder for yourself and the relapses more painful with extra unnecessary guilt. This doesn't mean you should just approach nofap with "I'll see how far I can go"...it's more of telling yourself PMO is totally not an option; and then work on improving other aspects of your life (carrying on) - obviously easier said than done but it's the justifications and excuses in the back of our minds that always get us!

    good luck to you jw88 you're off to a good start
     
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  4. Apr 28, 2014 #4
    arjit

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    thinking of reaching your target is gonna keep u fap free and motivated to stay away from it. so, the best thing is to think of reaching ur target. and as u keep on reaching ur targets, again and again, this will make u stay away from fapping forever..!! and rightly said, taking it too seriously is only gonna make it harder for u to reach your target...!!!
    anways.. good work jjnofap.. and same there for jw88..!!
     
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  5. Apr 28, 2014 #5
    iwillovercome

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    you'll see that thoughts will be a big difference after a while. the lower percentage you spend thinking about porn, naked woman, sex, guilt and shame, the better. naturally after stopping for a while, those percentages will decrease. I'd say in high school, some days the day would be like a strong 70% dedicated to that. Now, on a really good day, I'd say I'm at about 5%. It is really nice. less energy, less stress, less worry, etc.
     
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  6. Apr 28, 2014 #6
    jw88

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    When people use the term 'flat lining' it's kind of a blanket statement to state the obvious, they're simply not horny. That could be for many reasons... yes I've been flat lining, I don't mind, but it just feels like nothing is really changing apart from that I feel more energetic.

    I must note, I managed 7 days in the past, and when I remember looking at porn on the 7th day, it felt amazing, as if it were the first time I'd seen it. This time around Ive managed 9 days and I have almost no desrire to look at it, and I know that if I did it wouldn't be ''that great'' either. Same with massturbating, it always feels good, but it wouldn't be ''that great'' and not worth breaking the effort I've put in.

    The only way I'll break the 90 day's is if I have sex with a real woman or real physical contact.
     
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  7. Apr 29, 2014 #7
    jw88

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    And I've reached ten days. I'm starting to feel a bit more horny now, but it's really just curiosity ''will MO feel any better than usual'' etc. But, I'm not going to do it, it'll be a waste. However I feel much more tense than usual! I hope this feeling gets more intense (the hormonal feeling)... maybe then I can actually approach girls to chat up, I've never done it before and feel I must at least a few times! I've had girlfriends and been in 4 2+ year relationships (Im 25) but they never happened from me 'choosing' the girl. I imagine if I were just overwhelmed with hormones I'd approach girls with ease and not care about rejection.
     
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  8. Apr 29, 2014 #8
    Lion'sDenDaniel

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    Hey jw88

    You starting off strong. Stay strong. You can do it. I take it day by day as it's given to me.

    God bless

    Godschild
     
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