Chat/Dating/Sex sites

Leaving aside the sexual aspect of the chat room experience, the amount of time wasted in them was just phenomenal. This could wreck plans for a productive day, whilst at night it ate into sleep time (which then left me both tired and incredibly guilty the next day). There were occasions when I had been going so long that I saw the daylight coming through the curtains.

Whilst I don't consider myself gay I spent my time chatting wholly with other men in hypermacho talk about gym, pusssy and man-to-man talk. What kind of sexuality is that ?! Does it correspond to a deep down need to be virile? In any case, the more time spent pretending to be a super ripped stud actually made me less virile.

Putting an end to this destructive addiction has given me more time (and more sleep) but it also means I can start planning further ahead rather than running around trying to make up for wasted hours. At another level, I am making changes to become the man I fantasised about being.

I would love to hear you advice and your horror stories of wasted time!

 

I do agree with ThisChangesEverything. The waste of time in this kind of addiction is unbelievable and I experienced my self the fact of starting to chat after dinner and hearing the birds at the beginning of the following day without realizing that I had lost a night of sleep. Of course my bodily condition was miserable all the day after.

This kind of addiction seems to combine the classical pleasure given by internet sex with the fact of getting attention and somehow being 'loved' (which seems to be the basic kind of need experienced by human beings!). And of course there is the fact of showing another version of ourselves, definitely better looking and sexually more interesting.

As you say, a useful exercice could consist in trying to understand what we dream about ourselves in such a situation (or, better, which profound needs generate those version of ourselves) and trying to realize it in real life.