I need serious help.

The perfect piece of advice, eh. Someone to come along with the magic words for you.

I got a couple. And no they ain't magic. You're an addict, so am I. You either need to get in a close group that has a WhatsApp or Telegram chat for support readily available when you need it (this general forum Will Not be enough) or get your ass over to Reboot Camp with Mark Queppet and Alexander. It'll cost to enroll but if you aren't gonna group up here you need that man.

 

And dude you're 18, you're far from fucked.

You need a level of support you simply have not reached out for yet.

 

Sorry, theres nothing we can say to you that will get you to stop.

First you have to accept that porn wont bring you pleasure only real women will
second you have to realize porn gives you a limp dick (PIED)
third you have to realize you can never watch porn again

but the battle is yours, we can guide you, but the fight is yours alone
sorry, thats just the reality of the situation its a very hard addiction but it take extreme will power to over come.


For one year focus on rebooting and nothing else

 

Hm. I don't think any one answer can magically assist you, but I'll try to help.

Ask yourself this question: Is the 3-5 second period of pleasure worth the intense amount of shame and guilt you feel? Do you think that any benefit will come out of this?

If Porn is what triggers you to M and then O, isolate yourself from all sources of internet browsing and suggestive things (that means no erotic Korean movies, this is what made me fall into PMO).

This is really all I can think of, I'll try and help you more if needed.

 

It might be the case that porn is not your primary problem, but a sign of something deeper. Try to figure out why and when you feel the need to watch porn. Talk about it with a professional or someone who knows you well - your parents, a psychologist, your general practitioner.

Also, focussing on not doing something is also focussing on that something. Try doing stuff that makes you too busy to watch porn, maybe stop counting days since you last watched. And, very importantly and very much more easily said than done, stop beating yourself up over it. Masturbation, in moderation, is normal, healthy human behaviour and not a mortal sin or a gateway drug or whatever. I personally suspect that one reason you have so much trouble staying away from porn is that it's the one thing you're telling yourself not to do, and so it becomes a forbidden fruit of sorts. Watching porn every once in a while does not make you the most disgusting person in the world, but a normal 18-year-old. There is absolutely no reason to completely consume yourself with guilt - it's probably even counterproductive, as I think you might be watching porn because it helps against negative feelings for a few moments, and you're having those negative feelings in part because you watch porn. (That is the kind of thing you'll have to figure out for yourself with professional help). You're very likely stuck in a vicious cycle and if that specific cycle of negative feelings and porn is the one you're having you might just be able to break it by eliminating those feelings first, and the porn will follow, not the other way around.

tl;dr seek professional help and stop thinking watching porn makes you the most disgusting peron in the world.

 

Burn your bridges: Delete your porn collection/bookmarks. Block all porn sites - yes it's true you can unblock them, but the thing is since it'll take several minutes to get the sites unblocked again - or possibly longer, that's valuable time you're being given to get your wits about you and resist the urge.

Also, find a new motivation. As an ex drug addict I can tell you hands down you will NOT have any luck quitting if your only motivation to quit is the shame/guilt/etc you feel regarding the habit itself. You have to be motivated by something more positive - some benefit that you'll get from doing this. For example it could be better relationships with women etc if you feel your view of women has been distorted by porn. Or it could be the confidence and energy you get from being on a NoFap streak. Or perhaps you have anxiety like me and so it could be the prospect of an anxiety free life that motivates you going forward.

Find something positive about NoFap to motivate you, rather than just trying to quit because of the negatives alone - otherwise you won't make any progress.

As humans we have a very skewed perception of positive and negative traits. If something has a strong enough positive trait to it, we can completely ignore negatives that are 10x or 100x stronger than the positive. For example, just because we enjoy the way a cigarette feels - we can ignore/not care about the huge risk of cancer etc that it causes. We do not weigh up negative and positive traits evenly - but give priority to the positives. As a result, trying to get away from something only because of its negative traits will never be a strong enough motivator to actually make you quit it for good. If however you can find something else that has positives much greater than the positive pleasure you found from PMO - then you're all set and will find beating the habit relatively easy.

 

Look into a twelve step group, like sex or porn addicts anonymous, preferably one that meets daily. That kind of structure has high effectiveness rates.

 

X2 on 'you're far from fucked,' I'd have spared myself a lot of heartache if I had gone through this process at 18.

Look up these YouTube Vids, they got me excited about rebooting:
"The Science of Porn Addicition" -- ASAP Science
The Reboot Nation -- it's a YouTube channel with lots of great videos.

One of the common threads is "Stop the bad habits and replace them with good ones" -- which seems too simple, but it's about 're-wiring' the pathways in our brains that give us the reward from using.

"If you get rid of the bad and don't replace it with good the bad will come back tenfold" is something that has stuck with me, and is very true in this situation

 

Hey pal, I certainly have experienced that very unpleasant self-serving disposition we get ourselves into and I could empathize with you on what you are going through right now. I was also deeply troubled when I got myself in to that kind of mess. I flunked my exams, didn't go to classes, isolated myself further and further from my friends, and I just thought of giving it all up. Everyday I woke up, feeling lethargic and I just wanted to lay in my bed. There's nothing that I remember looking forward to doing. However, at this point in your life, the least that you can do is to belittle the efficacy of a support group behind you. Nothing feels better than releasing that burden you're struggling to carry and sharing it with the people closest to you. Having someone listen to you is the most potent mechanism you can profoundly harness. Remember, you are not alone in this predicament you're experiencing right now. Your loved ones and this whole community is behind your back.

 

Seems like you're panicking and putting too much pressure on yourself to quit rather than to try and make real changes that are going to stick. I agree with JesusGreen, the shame and guilt you feel won't serve as a good method for quitting. May I ask, what is it that troubles you the most about your personal addiction to PMO? What do you look forward to leaving behind you by quitting your addiction for good?

 

JUST STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!