Hi everyone, So i'm a 22 years old male and I've been masturbating and watching porn videos for over a decade now. I lost my virginity a few months ago and I realized i had serious trouble having proper intercourse with women. I had sex with 2 girls since then, the last one being my current girlfriend. Long story short, at first I couldn't even get an erection, and I think that watching all this porn (mostly hardcore stuff) made me unable to be aroused by regular excitation. Now for a few weeks I have finally been able to have intercourse, but everytime it's the same thing : I can never reach climax, and at some point my erection just goes away... I can't really feel my girl and this must be because desensitization of my penis, guess i rubbed it too hard and too often... I decided to stop masturbating at all, and i relapsed a few times because it's a real addiction. I usually relapse when things don't go so well with my girlfriend. It's really frustrating for me and it must be for her, even if she say's it's ok I'm afraid she might think it's her fault (even though I confessed to her it has to be because of my porn addiction). I'd like to know if any of you guys, especially those my age, have gone trough the same trouble and if you overcame it it would me really nice to tell me so i can be reassured. I think porn is a horrible thing and there should be some kind of prevention about the effects it can have on people.
I exactly know how you feel. Got exactly the same issues like you have, and it's a shame. Porn manipulates your brain so intensely, you start believing that sex should exactly be like porn. But it's not like that. Sex is completely different. Give your penis a break, let the skin recover a bit. You'll see it will get more sensitive again. Do it for yourself, and for a better sexlife. It's completely worth it. Wish u the best, bro
Thank you so much for the support, it's good not to feel alone. I think it will be easier now that i know for sure it can get better. Wish you all the best, too !!
Thanks man just visit this forum everytime you feel weak, cause it helps you to lower your urge. Stay strong!
Day 2 of my no P or M experience. I'm trying to get educated by reading some threads on NoFap. I also found this cool video : This guy was really deep into P and M addiction and he seems to give really good advice.
Beginning of day 3. Sometimes I think about P&M, but fortunately I don't feel any strong urge. All the stories and articles I read, and the videos I watched really convinced me that I have PIED, and that I have to stop watching P to get better. Here's an interesting article :
Day 4, still not much crave for P or M. It's funny earlier I was watching TV and there was a movie about this young guy who discovers porn and his sport and school result start dropping down. I would have laughed about this film a while ago.
Hey man, I've been there where you were are at. My personal experience, I couldn't do a full 90 reboot without a relapse, but I would be able to go in 20-30 months increments. But In the long run, I've seen positive effects. A little background. I started PMO since 14 2-4 times a day for 14 years, no lube and epic fast mode fap. Now I sensitivity back in my Johnson and came O to regular penetration. Before i would go limp like a minute in after entering. So it is reversible. just keep at it and you will see changes.
It is extremely comforting to know that one is not alone!!! I love this website. Today is day 10 for me and I keep pushing. At times I stroke my Johnny when I'm in the loo but never allow myself to ejaculate. I'm praying for a period when I could entirely quiet, not even feeling the urge to to my dick except for when I'm in pissing. I'm positive that change has come even though it comes with hardship. Stay strong. We are in this war together!!!
I believe that ALL ladies think it's their fault to some degree. They believe deep down inside when this happens that they are not sexy enough, beautiful enough, etc. You are so lucky that she has joined you in the fight. Just keep reassuring her. It gets better. Hang in there.
Thank you so much guys for your support and sharing your stories. It makes things way easier when you don't feel alone in the fight. I've entered day 5, and noticed some slight changes. When I do stuff w/ my girl, I have more sensations, and a little bit closer to O I think. Also, it takes more time to my wee-wee to get tired. Step by step, we're moving forward to getting better and further away from evil. To all who read this message, don't let your guard down, we can make it !!! Thanks again for your support and all the best to you guys.
So, long story short, after a while I relapsed... and it's been almost three years now. Broke up with my former girlfriend (not because of my addiction though), found another one with whom I'm generally happier and finally been able to reach orgasm a few times (but still less than about 30 times in two years). I usually reach orgasm when I stop PM for a few days, which should motivate me and actually did in the beginning since I drastically reduced my porn consumption for a few months. Then we moved in together and what usually happens after a couple spends a long time in a relationship happened : we were both not craving for having sex as often. A vicious circle pattern started to appear : now when we don't have sex in a long time, I tend to compensate by masturbating. And I'm pretty sure it makes me crave for real sex even less, and so on and so on... This time I decided not to let her be aware of my porn addiction since I'm too afraid of the consequences. Anyways I think it's a fight against myself, and something I have to deal with alone. I will give the 90 day challenge another try, although I will not prevent myself from having sex with her for such a long period (we still do it a least once a week) for obvious reasons.
