Dear friends, I am new to this community, i start my reboot by taking the 30 day challenge. Though i intend to do 90 days but i am spectical about going that long since i am a heavy masturbater these days owing to my personal circumstances. I have successfully abstained for weeks normally but i relapse often. This time i want to reboot completely because everytime i masturbate i feel shame and underconfident. I hope i will get support and motivation to achieve my goal from the fellow members.
I have also taken 30 days challenge today. I relapsed last time on Day 20.Till I relapsed I started feeling some kind of energy within.I am greatly convinced by my own experience and some spiritual knowledge that many of the problems which are very simple but we make it look complex due to our thus habit. So lets stop it from now onwards
I have practiced abstinence for like 15 days several times and i start feeling positivity within 4 days but then i relapse . I have observed that once i relapse i masturbate more like i will go for 5-6 times , i am unable to comprehend what is that. I seriously dont like it but it happens may god give me and you the strength to accomplish the 30 day challenge.
Take one day at a time rather than focusing on 90 days. You have to have a plan for everyday. Use a porn blocker if you don't have one.
"You don't set out to build a wall. You don't say 'I'm going to build the biggest, baddest, greatest wall that's ever been built.' You don't start there. You say, 'I'm going to lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid. You do that every single day. And soon you have a wall." Will Smith. Focus on living the day as best as it can be lived, and soon you will have 90+ counter
I'll have to disagree with that quote. Having a goal, a vision, a plan on how to build that wall will make sure you keep laying bricks every day. When you have a bit of free time paint the wall and hang it over your bed. Also don't forget to vote Trump. Sorry, but stumbling around blindly without a plan is an old weakness of ours. What I really wanted to say is: I'm in. Last failure on 03/31/16.
but sometimes we are bogged down by the imagination thats why it is required to be focussed on the daily task , if it went well the result will be inevitably good.
I started this as well and I'm currently at Day 23. I find that keeping myself busy helps the most. I use mostly my phone and tablet for apps etc and avoid the internet as much as possible. I've tried different blockers in the past, but they seem to be too sensitive and restrict things that aren't porn or nudity related, so I just avoid. I have bookmarks for all of the sites I frequent, forums etc and I restrain myself to only use them and stay off the searches. Boredom & needing an escape/distraction is my weak point, so staying busy seems to take that element away. If I do need to search something, I wait until others are home, our computer is in the main room of our home. My tablet and phone have never been an issue.
4 weeks today(Day 28) and feeling great. I don't know if this is common, but when I relapse, I don't binge watch. I went several months before my last relapse and it lasted less than 30 minutes. Hardcore Porn sites have always been a turn off for me, but realistic couple love making erotic massage type videos are what always gets me, due to wanting this closeness so badly from my wife of nearly 20 years. I realize though that whether it's a 5 minute slip up or an all day binge, a relapse is a relapse and that is the frustrating part for me. I do seem to feel more determined and in control this time around and I will succeed. I'm looking ahead to Day 60 now
4 weeks today(Day 28) and feeling great. I don't know if this is common, but when I relapse, I don't binge watch. I went several months before my last relapse and it lasted less than 30 minutes. Hardcore Porn sites have always been a turn off for me, but realistic couple love making erotic massage type videos are what always gets me, due to wanting this closeness so badly from my wife of nearly 20 years. I realize though that whether it's a 5 minute slip up or an all day binge, a relapse is a relapse and that is the frustrating part for me. I do seem to feel more determined and in control this time around and I will succeed. I'm looking ahead to Day 60 now
Hi, Im also new, joined today. I want to start with a 30 day challenge as well. Maybe cut it up into smaller challenges to begin with... We can do it!