Does it count?

Ultimately everyone is accountable to themselves. Do YOU feel like this was disloyal to your goal?

Personally, if it was my husband, I would be okay with it because it was an O achieved WITH me. It's the ones he does on his own that causes the problems for us.

But like I said, you make the final call here.

 

It sounds like, if I'm understanding you correctly, that you're concerned about reinforcing those dopamine pathways that were forged through porn. Not sure how much research you've done on this. Have you looked through the links and research tools available on this site? Specifically the your brain on porn ones?

My guess is that you didn't get a huge dopamine rush with your SO that you would have gotten if you PMO'd. As long as you aren't feeding the rush of dopamine, my understanding would be that it wouldn't hurt your forward progress. Maybe one of the guys could chime in here?

 

I think the usual feeling on here (after reading around a few posts) is that sexual act is that involve only your partner are fine. Some people suggest that it will make your recovery a longer process. Personally I think that, as the goal is to stop pmo and start having a fullfilling sex life with your partner, I would count this as progress.

 

No worries dude. Glad you're feeling more connected to your partner. That's the aim of the game after all.

 

I got laid last night, and it was weird for a variety of reasons.

There was NO dopamine rush at all. I'm not counting it as a relapse, and in fact I think it was good for my progress. I had absolutely no desire to PMO later, or this morning either, despite waking up with morning wood.

 

Hello,
I don't think you have cheated, but since I am walking the same path as you do I might be biased.
As for me I know that the feeling I have towards PMO is different than what I feel with my girlfriend. We engage in sexual activity on a regular basis and I still felt the need to PMO on a daily basis. Since I came here and don't do PMO anymore I feel the withdrawl and I believe that it is a different desire than the desire towards actual sex.
Even though I am without source I am inclined to believe that it doesn't hurt the progress and even if it does it shouldn't account to much.
Sex is not PMO. You do get dopamine shots but you can get dopamine shots from eating or working out.

I have one personal qustion though, have you told your gf about this? About your PIED? That you have an addiction and you are trying to quit?

Stay strong and keep going.

 

I had a similar experience this morning but maybe a but worse. I haven't pmo'd in 3 going on 4 days nw and this is my first time ever trying to break away from pmo'ing but my libido and ability to ma it's in an erecting also my sensitivity have plummeted and idk what to do. My penis ended up going fully flacid during Intercourse which has never happened I'm so disheartenedand feeling so low today