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My girl and my fight against the habit

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Futurefilmdirector, Jan 4, 2016.

  1. Jan 4, 2016 #1
    Futurefilmdirector

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    For almost 2 years, I am in a very serious relationship.We live together almost since we met each other which basically means that we match pretty much .
    I moved to another country for her and we made a big step in order to be together. Being in a relationship is awesome especially when you are addicted to porn because hopefully it is easier to quit.

    But let me say about the hard part , when I got her I thought :
    - Oh men,she is amazing, sex is awesome - I am never going to jerk again or watch porn. Well this was the biggest mistake I ever made in the fight with the devil .

    My old addiction began to pursue me even in my new life, so after sex I would go and jerk 1-2 times because I was used to it. When my girlfriend would not have sex with me , I would freak out and watch porn and jerk because often I could not get a boner while thinking of her.Due to some medical problems we could not make love for 2 month and this is when I realized that -


    IT IS TOTALLY AWFUL HOW YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE ! I told myself and also being a member of a public speaking club ( Toastmasters) I decided to give a speech about the negative effects of porn.

    I thought a public appearence and the speech will stop me . It did not....

    I decided after New Year to install an Internet filter and as soon as I found this community, to join it and write about my one XP.

    I will finish this once and forever and help other people do it !
     

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  2. Jan 13, 2016 #2
    KTFire

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    Futurefilmdirector,
    You did a very brave thing by making a speach about this issue. Everytime i try to speak about this issue its like i have to pull out every word out of ribcage.
    Its great that you are in a relationship, and a significant other can help you in this journey more than you think.
    Sex and PMO are very different things, and they even pull from different sources. One from intimate contact, sights, smell and feels, and the other from bright visuals and fast jolts sent to your nerves. Ask yourself what feels better to you, and how you feel after each. Stay strong.
     
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  3. Jan 13, 2016 #3
    Ikindaknew

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    M8,

    I'm like you. I used to have sex with my wife and then when she felt asleep or something, I would PMO for a few hours after. Sometimes, I would envision the PMO session even before the sex took place. Same thing the next morning. I would wake up early, to PMO while casually sipping my morning coffee.

    To me, its all about the chaser effect:

    http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-chaser

    It's because having sex wakes up the "animal" instinct to procreate even more, like an animal RUT(matting season).
     
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  4. Jan 15, 2016 #4
    Futurefilmdirector

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    Yeah, you are riht. I read the article and it is exactly how it goes with me. I am on my 12th day and it is tottally different.
    I crave for sex !!! Literally , my brain wants it , my body and my soul. Indeed it became more pleasurable :)
     
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  5. Jan 20, 2016 #5
    Papasmurf22

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    You're so lucky man I'm dying to get that natural animalistic craving for sex I use to have.. Now all I have is lil urges for porn that don't even feel good, but I do it anyways cuz as of now that's the only bit of pleasure I can get.. Sad I know but I'm trying to work on it hopefully I can get that craving for real women sooner then later
     
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