I'm willing to bet that we've all experienced the dreaded rationalization, where our brain tries to convince us why it's okay to relapse just this once, or why a particular activity doesn't count as a relapse. For example, today my brain tried to convince me that looking at "soft" images was okay because no actual sex was depicted, so it doesn't count as porn, etc. I know that's not true (at least for me), but the thoughts come and go nonetheless. Thinking about this, I thought it might be nice to create a place where we can all post our brains' rationalization efforts as we experience them. I think this will serve two main benefits: First, it allows us to see our thoughts written down, making them easier to defeat. Second, it allows other users who might experience similar thoughts the benefit of our experiences. If you like the idea, post away!
My main rationalization comes in this form: "Your wife will never give you the sex life you want. Instead of divorcing, just go back to fapping. It will be better for everyone". Man, when this comes strong, it's hard to resist.
Since I'm trying to stop for Lucy ( see my journal called nofap journey) my brain is like do it just this once relapsing is part of the process and u can't be successful in this journey with out it .
Naw, not backin it. We are just learning everybody elses excuses for the next time it comes on us. If you post one you should post why its non-sense.
I respect your opinion, but the reason I created this thread was so that we all could learn about the rationalization process. In this way when it does come to us, we can see the excuses of others and know that we are not the only ones thinking them, making them easier to dismiss.
I grinded against my mattress to completion one morning after waking up from an erotic dream. "It's not fapping if you're not using your hand!" Complete bullshit. It's no different. Death grip could easily become death bed or whatever.
I'm an insomniac and really light sleeper and when I tried to stop watching porn I lasted for 3 months until my sleep got really bad, I couldn't sleep for 3 nights and my brain was craving for the quick dopamine fix thinking it will help me sleep. I have in and it was the worst thing I've done in my life. After finding this website and understanding the reasons why men watch porn has helped me stop for longer than 3 months now and still going strong
Knowing what is my correct course of action but still fighting relapses and setbacks, is unsettling. I hope my recent failures in this cease and I can move on to better decision making and all around enjoyment I discovered just by not PMO'ing.I want this control over my urges. So close!!! I start to feel great, strong, confident, then I get horny. No release in site from the Mrs. then, I settle with my brain.
Here are a few that my brain keeps telling me - You'll not get married anytime soon, and you won't have sex till marriage. Why not masturbate? - You can't sleep. Fap will help you sleep - You haven't fapped for so long. I bet it's going to feel so freaking good if you fap now - Your balls need to refresh themselves. You should fap - *while looking at the mirror* Look at that dick. It could really use a fap
and remember everyone here to educate yourself first, dont just come to this site and look at everyones posts and success stories. find out how the guys successful here got to that level and thats mainly because they understood why our brains try to rationalize why we should watch porn. it just wants that quick dopamine fix and its fucked its like a drug and it should be illegal cause it fucks our lives up if our brains get wired in to thinking porn is ok, YOU WILL GET ED!! check out the other threads or youtube why our brains are so fixed on watching porn and it will help you quit. also once you realize the negatives and harm it will do to yourself and your future and the people around you, you will def want to quit. a real healthy sex life in a real relationship with the person you love is what you really need, not porn!
-no one likes you -it's another _day alone -Girls aren't interested, why not wank off -It'll boost your confidence
