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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by martialarts1997, Jan 1, 2016.

  1. martialarts1997

    martialarts1997 Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys, So I'm an 18 year old male who has been masturbating to porn since i was 13. There has been times where i would masturbate to porn 5 times a day. Luckily ive been able to cut that down to 3-4 times a week. but I WANT TO STOP FOR GOOD. Let me explain the bad effects i have experienced since the addiction. Maybe some of you can relate!

    1. For me to be truly turned on i watch the most BIZARRE porn videos and then after i orgasm I think to myself "wtf did i just do?" I am so desensitized to porn its absurd. I have masturbated to Gay, transgendered person, Obese, and ALOT more crazy videos that i normally would not. Also to note, im 100% straight but i must admit gay porn turns me on because of the tabooness!

    2. I look at females as more of sex objects then actually loving for them

    3. I dont get full erections anymore.

    Anyways, I am on day 6 of being "Kind of sober". I say that because I have not orgasmed while watching porn but I did put porn on a few times and masturbated, but didnt finish on purpose because I wanted to stop.

    With that being said. Share your input. i would love for some feedback so we can all grow and improve together!
     
  2. marcpro

    marcpro Fapstronaut

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    Damn son Hi, stop watching Porn first make a list of why you want to stop. You are addicted. With time your sexual drive will become normal again but you'll need determination. The fact that you talked about strange P videos shows that you already escalated but don't worry you can do better you can quit this.
     
  3. martialarts1997

    martialarts1997 Fapstronaut

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    thanks man im trying. some nights i get those crazy urges and ill put porn on and ill rub myself for a bit but then i stop before i orgasm and i get rid of my phone for the night. Is that considered a relapse?
     
  4. Brasileiro

    Brasileiro Fapstronaut

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    That's what they call "edging"... You ALMOST cum, but you hold. This is not good for our goal, in my opinion. Don't be despair. I used to watch transsexual porn, incest porn, and for some times, even with dogs too. Yeah, fucking disgusting. I am also straight (At least i believe i am, so far...) and i have the same struggle as you. You are not alone dude... Welcome :)

    Oh... Don't even think about this. Think about working, about clean the house, about butterflies, about economy, anything. Just don't think about avoid thinking about sex or PMO or whatever the fuck. What they say is true... As long as we think about the problem, it never goes away. You should think about how much it's bad or how you can change, but not about the subject itself. Well, this works with me. Good luck :)
     
  5. martialarts1997

    martialarts1997 Fapstronaut

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    thanks man you have a good point. Fuck it lets do this shit! how many days sober are you?
     
  6. Brasileiro

    Brasileiro Fapstronaut

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    Right now, some hours... :( But soon it will be days, months, years :)
     
  7. IamMike

    IamMike Fapstronaut

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    I wouldn't go soo far to say that you are a complete addict, but I suspect more you've created an environment that makes it easy to give in, probably due to easy accessibility of the P, an abundance of privacy, and perhaps boredom at times. If you keep it going year after year as you explained then you'll need a variety too keep things up per say.

    My suggestions would be:
    1. Print & Reread your list above as to why you want to quit and read it everyday.
    2. Make the environment difficult: Keep the doors open, install a parental blocker (I use the one on my standard Kaspersky and keep the password written down and far away from me).
    3. Start a journal on here and report back honestly everyday, even if no one replies, people still do read.

    Although we all have varied backgrounds, reasons, and desires, we are all fighting the same good fight and I'm right here next to you bro.
     
  8. Eagle15

    Eagle15 Fapstronaut

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    You can do this brother. I started at 11 and now I'm 52! you are nipping this in the bud, I'm proud of you. You can do this and you are going to have a great life. Make a counter and start today!
     

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