Help! I keep tricking myself back into darkness

howdy doo

do you know what i have found helps. i have the exact same thoughts as you...... actually i posted a previous thread and my brain actually makes me believe i have relapsed in dreams. then i say oh well might as do one more. bad.

BUT i have decided to distance myself from the negative thoughts like im a loser and just say to myself. oh well il be a loser with OR without fapping so why not give it a go. put less pressure on yourself.

good luck man

 

Tell your brain "SHUT THE FUCK UP", nothing else matters except rebooting for you. Not your philosophies about yourself, were you want to be in life at 26, what other people are doing. Thats all irrelevant. Just reboot.
Make a calendar and record how ur day went everyday, it will make you less likely to relapse.

Also tell yourself, "PMO is not an option"

 

You make ur own dissioions in life, if you only rebooted successfully, imm sure you would be where yoou want to be.

Humans are suppose to have a highh sex drive, BUT they are meant to release it with another real human beiing not a computer screen or there hand

There is no evidence that it is unhealthy to abstain from M, infact the opposite. Sex is another story.

Its true this is a very big challenge, its a lifestyle change. But to me it seems like u only have two options, either A. continue PMOing and continue being depressed and not go where you wanna go in life or B. Reboot, stop PMOing and go where you want to go in life.

Its hard yes, but it has to be done.

 

Yeah as Golgo 13 said. Tell your brain to shut the fuck up!
And remember, this is the evil side of your brain, not the good side.
Try cold showers bro, they will kill the demons or atleast help reduce them.

 

Dude I know exactly how that feels, and it is not a good feeling at all. I think now that you are in a sober state right after relapsing is a good time to write down on paper a list of why you ABSOLUTELY NEED to flee from PMO. Also I think it is important that you have a clear set of goals for fighting PMO. Try to avoid stress in the first place, if you do get stressed enagage in activities to help you replace PMO. For me I have chosen daily journal, gym work outs, discipline, and daily cold showers as my goals that I am pursuing. There are days I fail to hit my goals (many days), but my goal still remains the same and I am pursuing it. Prayer and readng the Bible also helps me a lot. LIVE FOR SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE! If you are not pursuing something productive, then idleness, unproductivity and ultimately PMO would be pursuing you. I am just another guy like and I need to you fight this hard as much as you need me. It would have a positive effect on us both. You can do this !

 

Sorry bruh. This is what helps me: i keep on telling myself that there's a huge reward on the otherside( ie after completing the 90 day reboot) something beneficiary to you. Gd luck, dawg!

 

are you talking about your habit of excessive masterbation, or is it watching p? your counter talks about p but in your note you just say m is a problem

 

Educate yourself first. You need to know your adiction. I suggest you to watch the Gary Wilson videos and go to yourbrainonporn.com . Spend a lot of hours reading and then it's going to be easier to resist. And of course, write your motivations for rebooting and keep it in mind all the time, also know your triggers and start doing something else to fill the void of no PMOing. it could be meditation, playing an instrument, running etc. Of course it's hard, the first weeks i had to take cold showers, they are great to calm you down. Good luck my friend .

 

try to speak to yourself loudly.
- also try to till your brain why don't you try to stop PMO for a specific period and then judge which is better, you tried PMO for 7 years and never experienced more than 10 days in your adulthood without fapping why don't you give it a try even you will suffer! believe me it works with me to talk to my brain and convince him to try and stop thinking of PMO.

 

Much like such agreement