I tried so many times... So many times and I can't push myself anymore. I have been having low consistent day counts for the past month and I feel like I can't do this anymore.. I don't know what to do, I'm stuck and I don't know how to get up.. I have tried for about 15-25 times in the past month but I can't do this anymore... Help me please, somebody.
OK I'll tell you something now. Being strong isn't deciding to quit PMO and succeeding the first time. If you manage to do that, either fair enough, or you didn't have a big problem in the first place. That's not strength. Strength is deciding to quit PMO and failing, failing so many times that you feel it's pointless and lose all hope, and then still , against all odds, being able to start again from scratch with fresh motivation and will to succeed. That's being strong. The fact that you've done this 15-25 times in the past month is fucking incredible, it's awe-inspiring and a testament to the amazing strength and commitment you possess. You're fantastically dedicated and brilliantly determined. It shows such strong character and you should be truly proud of what you've accomplished so far. Each one of us has a different journey, a different path we must take with different hurdles to overcome. This is part of your journey my friend, enjoy it, savour it in the knowledge that soon you'll arrive at your destination a happier and more content person than you could ever imagine. I really meant what I said, you're amazing and easily one of the strongest people on this forum. Always remember you're never alone, it's never hopeless, and you will beat this. Your friend, Jakob
Jakob brings a very relevant point to your inquiry I know I have the tendency to be disgruntled with my past and fearful of my future By placing myself in the here and now, I can decide once again to move forward and not give up on myself I've been struggling with PMO for 36 years, if I quit trying to defeat it, it will not stop trying to defeat me, so what choice do I really have?
Don't give up brother, there's no such thing as giving up because you know the harmful effects & we know you're going to keep trying to stop anyways. Just like I had & still have the urge to keep going & recovering from this addiction after failing probably 50 times last year alone. I'm on my way to my longest streak ever after relapsing many times through sheer willpower, motivation and inspiration from countless beneficial articles on how this could enhance & better the quality of my life as it will yours. This is what the struggle is about, knowing there's a bridge to cross or a wall to climb knowing there's all kinds of obstacles along the way aside from the climbing and walking you'll have to do in the first place. Don't give up as we 100,000s of fapstronauts are fighting to get through sh* day by day. I recommend researching for yourself the benefits, first hand accounts of lives changing whenever you feel the urge. YouTube has a lot of journals and accounts of nofap and how it bettered them as a person. Find your reason to keep going, delay those urges till they subside, fight your own brain. You've gone through too much in life to be put down by your own d*. We're all with you on this.
I share your pain, friend. Whilst I've slipped several times, during each of the better attempts I've kinda found my stride and the journey got easier. I'm not down at all for failing, I'm happy that I keep on trying, knowing that this attempt might be the one which leads me to 90 days. Keep on going. Remember why you're doing this.
Hey thanks guys for taking the time to help me out. You guys are the best, I feel like I can tackle this problem again. Thank you all for the motivation, I will stay strong. Also, sorry about the inactivity, I'm usually not as active on here.
It's hard to add to what these guys said, Maroon -- get up and try again, that's all you can do. You know, chances are you'll slip and fall again ... no worries, just try to squeak out an extra day each time. One thing that helped me (and this is my first time trying, with no real record to speak of so far) was listening to that little conversation I was having with myself as I start a PMO session. Basically it said this: "This is a whole lot better than no sex at all, which is exactly what I see in the future for you, since you have ED, low libido, and only supermodels have good sex." Well, first, that's a pretty sweeping prediction to make for several decades into the future, and the three things that made me think I'd never have a partner were *caused by the PMO*. So go figure ... two weeks in, and I really have no desire to go back to that shit.
I say stop trying the same way you have so far. Stop doing what doesn't work for you. Don't continue depleating your self-respect, willpower and determination. Acknowledge that it's tougher than you thought. Realize that it's an addiction, that you won't overcome it by sheer determination or willpower. Something I read in a book called "the One thing" (about productivity) regarding willpower is that it's limited. it depletes over the course of the day and it's strongest in the morning and weaker at night. Also food replenishes willpower and even more so sugars( try to stick with fruit and healthier forms of them). Make time to take positive action on this. Study it, Understand what you're up against. Redesign your schedule and your environment, get accountable, set up barriers and buffers. take the time to prepare for withdrawals, make it a priority... and when you have prepared for the 90 day reboot, Go for it with your all! You might not have ED. I didn't. But this video was very helful for understanding what I was up against and evaluating what I needed to do to prepare. http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-induced-ed-reboot-advice I know you can do it if you take action against it and prepare! PS If your serious about it, get the best porn blocker installed right in your brain. A commitment to No Arousal! http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=14525.0 Set up a monastery for your mind only for the duration of the reboot or the first 30 days. Even more, change your heart, the innermost desires of your deepest soul. Get God's help at that. Prayer has helped me so much through this. God won't give up on you. Warrior
Maroon, I can feel your frustration. I lost my first wife and my 7 children. Now my second wife left 4 months ago to go back to her birthplace. I've struggled fro 50 years. However, my second wife is coming back Wednesday and giving me another chance. I've been reading "Breaking the Cycle" It's been very helpful....hang in there
Like the day counts in your sig, just curious what is 1160 days? I'd like to give up PMO forever myself. 1160 days appears to be a little longer than 3 years. Were they just random amounts of days you chose?
