Well for years after doing nofap from severe pmo addiction, even after years all the flashbacks and doubt about relapse still occurred, there some incidents were count as relapse, here link to my previous post: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...long-gone-and-didnt-know.359197/#post-3783961 It was a long journey even though I didn't reach my specific goal, at least i can get a job and socialize, however my life situation is still messed up, not a single good thing have ever happened in my life, after healed from pmo, it still the same, probably a punishment. Wondering what the point of my existence, if i kept returning back... I thought about going back to pmo again... I'm not sure. But yes i think that's enough from me, i won't be posting anymore in this site. Thanks nofap community.
Please don't leave, I need you… I wait for your posts every day, buy popcorn and read them. Don't go back to the pmo! You're going to make a mistake.
When nothing seems to help I go back and look at the stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before
Nah I'm tired of this life... I kept having those flashback, turned out i was already relapsed.... Anyways thanks man for the encouragement.
Fact: if your life is messed up now, maybe going back to pmo will reduce your stress for a while and you will feel better but is very likely that you will go back to harmful and self-destructive behaviors. (all type of pmo is already pretty self-destructive and harmful if you think about it). You feel frustrated for not having achieved the specific accomplishments you had set out to achieve. then you say: fuck it, this isn't working, i'm tired. That's normal. Maybe your goals were unrealistic, maybe you need a better plan, maybe those goals need to be reconfigured according to healthier objectives or maybe those goals are just around the corner. But do you really think that going back to pmo will help you achieve them? or is it more likely that your life will get worse? are you making this decision out of fear my friend? You think nofap will make you a superman? and what is a superman? that person who has no flashbaks, temptations, who doesn't feel bad? no dude you are human, you will deal with all those things. But you can choose to be a human who learns from those trials, who seeks to get better from them, who has faith that things will turn out better. or be a human afraid of life. Responsibility or victimhood. Spoiler: you will be both types, but you better be more of the first type than the second. Tomorrow the girl you like may write to you, they may congratulate you at work... keep calm, you may see some kind of result, but until then you must have faith, because that is what faith is for, my friend, to keep moving forward despite of not seeing the results
Thanks for being supportive... It's not like nofap gave me superpower or anything... If i relapsed I'm definitely feeling the old me coming back, and it's the fear been haunting me, now it has come true. I'm slowly feel not like myself, act and think clearly, my anxiety is us increasing. Even if i didn't pmo all those years, have been incredibly depressing, nothing good ever happened even after i successfully got rid of pmo. Going back to pmo again probably just a way for me escape reality. It's zero chance for me to get a girlfriend anyways, I have enough man... Thanks for being positive, I don't even know why I'm still living like this.
I am also dealing with feelings of failure right now. I know it's difficult but try to see the good things you have in life and be thankful for them. If you focus only on what you don't have, (like a girlfriend) and you also have the belief that you have no chance, then I assure you that you will live unhappy. Good luck brother, you surely have people who care about you, you are young and you are healthy, that is wonderful. Maybe you could save money to go to therapy or for learn a skill or sport that makes you proud in a few months. There is hope, life is constantly changing
NOO DONT GO BACK TO PMO! Trust me dude hear me out but my life was dog water when I used to PMO daily with excessive brain fog, lack of focus, terrible with conversations, and felt neglected etc. point is that when I discovered NoFap/ semen retention, and started stopping all my bad behaviors I started improving and doing new things and getting out of my comfort zone! Like doing sports, finally getting a girlfriend, making new friends, better focus, more engaging, laughing more, etc! Yes even though I feel good I still get negative thinking and anxiety if I relapsed or not like you. But know what? I just keep moving forward because I’m not gonna give up since I’ve been on this NoFap stuff for 5 years!! YOU CAN DO IT TOO TRUST ME DONT GIVE UP AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!
U haven't pmo for 5 years, truly amazing brother, also it's apart of my goal to get a gf and new life as well... That's why relapse meant so much to me. Do u think my case considered a relapse?
Same situation but more details... Back like a year ago, i used to ask on nofap site about transgender twerking... they said it was a huge slipped up, but i didn't provide details... Because there were extreme triggers like twerking from behind with one of those thong underwear, almost leaked their asshole, then grabbing their balls tryna hide it from behind while twerking (not nudity) ... I spend like almost a week... At that time... although i did not pmo to those. Typing all these from work, I'm literally in anxiety mode that's literally shaking my whole sensation body. Like i was just doing my job then all of sudden this doubts came... Maybe i was already relapsed back there..., did i?
Flashbacks are because of dopamine receptors cleaning. And change your name tf, maybe make a new account with an empowering name and start fresh.
you didn’t relapse because it didn’t make you PMO or lead you to fap! Good job, but try to avoid sexual images or videos as best as you can and try not to search for them when you’re aroused because that’s what can plant a seed in your head to seek out more sexual content which would be bad. And tbh you decide what a relapse is since this is your journey and no one else’s so if someone considers something you did a relapse, but you don’t consider it then keep moving forward on your journey man!
https://nofap.com/faq/what-is-a-porn-addiction-relapse/ here’s a link brother so you can view it whenever you want or when you feel the urge to ask for what a relapse is again
Did god heard my struggling or something? I thought it was an actual relapsed i seriously almost gave up since that incident even my anxiety relapsed as well... Can i dm you bro please, i seriously need help in private message is better...
